Can you be at ease with whatever is going on around you and still be connected enough to be effective? So many times we feel we have to worry about things and work them out in our minds in order to really solve them. We fall into the trap and are totally preoccupied with our thoughts and we are literally over thinking everything. We are consumed with thinking about the issue, our options and how we are going to respond. We are convinced it is our responsibility to figure things out and that means we must explore all the “what ifs”, think through the potential different scenarios and worry ourselves about how things will ultimately play out. We think it would be irresponsible to take things with ease and to not worry. That is just too casual and if we are too detached from the outcome and not planning ahead, we feel that things will not work out the way we want.
However, is it really an issue if we are more at ease with whatever arises?
Life Satisfaction: Be at Ease – The alternaview
When an issue, challenge or anything else arises, the best thing we can actually do is to be at ease with everything that is happening. To not get too worked up and obsessed with any situation and think that things have to play out exactly as we want them to. We need to figure out a way to be at ease and just let things be.
It is inevitable that things are going to come up. There will always be things we need to take care of, issues we need to handle and things that need to be resolved. But, in order to be at our best, resolve issues and manage through challenges, we need to learn how to simply be at ease. When we are in this frame of mind, we really set ourselves up to be the most effective and work through anything that comes our way.
It is not that we don’t care about what is going on around us or that we are too nonchalant, but rather that we just don’t consume ourselves and worry about things so much that we diminish or completely eliminate our ability to be effective and reach the best solutions. We don’t let things eat at us and we don’t rehash scenarios or continually have other thoughts that are doing nothing good for us.
When we are calm and at ease with what is going on, that is really when we are the most productive. That is when we are really able to better move through our day and manage issues because there is a lightness that pervades from us that doesn’t allow our negative perceptions and needless worrying to interfere or overpower our ability to be effective.
When we are at ease, we are more accepting of whatever comes up, good or bad, and are confident that we will be able to work through anything. We understand how to just let things be until a time comes where it is appropriate for us to take action. We have figured out how to just take things in stride.
How to use this alternaview:
1. Decide you will be okay with whatever comes up. How many times have you heard “it is what it is?” Well, as cliché as the phrase may be, the reason why you hear people say it so much is because it is so true and a great way to strengthen your ability to accept any and all situations.
2. Really buy into the truism that everything happens for a reason. This is another common truism and if you really buy into it, you will understand there is no reason to question or be upset about anything that comes your way. There is a purpose and reason for it all that is in one way or another for your benefit. Perhaps you are learning something important or being positioned to experience something in the future. Whatever the case may be, everything really does happen for a reason.
3. Make sure you have the right perspective. Try to see the lighter side of issues and challenges. Don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill.
4. Make it your goal to take things with ease. It is easy to fall into the trap of getting caught up in an issue. The minute you feel yourself getting too emotionally charged up, take a step back and remind yourself to take it with ease. Don’t allow yourself to come close to hitting your boiling point or getting to that place where you are just way too worked up.
5. Be confident you will be at your best when you are at ease. When you realize you will by all means be at your best when you are at ease, it provides you with additional incentive to make certain that you are taking things in stride. Know that as long as you can maintain a great frame of mind and be at ease, you will set yourself up to successfully handle or accomplish anything.
Conclusion
It does nothing for you when you are too intense about something or when you wind yourself up into a big knot because you are so concerned or worried about something. The best thing you can do for yourself is learn how to let go, accept what comes your way and take things in ease … that is the alternaview.
Do you agree with this alternaview? Are you good at being at ease? Please share your thoughts in the comments section.
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I am so glad that you are managing through it well. It is all about maintaining your peace of mind despite the fact that the things going on around you may seem overwhelming. It sounds like you are doing a great job at it. Thank you so much for the kind words and for stopping by the alternaview. I really enjoy having you here and hearing your insights.
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