How to Really Get What You Want

If you have been pursuing a goal for some time and working really hard at something, do you expect to see some signs of success?  Does there have to be some evidence that things are falling into place before you believe in something coming to fruition?  Do you need to see progress and proof that what you want and desire is becoming a reality?

For many of us, little signs of success are a prerequisite to a belief that what we are pursuing is coming true. It can be challenging to be absolutely certain right after you set a goal that you will by all means reach it.  We may feel totally motivated to work at something and filled with confidence, but somewhere in the back of our minds there may be some doubts that linger … especially if we have set a big long term goal.

Attaining what we want is a process, but as we get closer and closer to success, our doubts and uncertainty start diminishing and ultimately disappear. We have to be able to see what we want slowly coming true and once we see those signs, we are then propelled toward success.

Whether or not we realize it, many of us have fallen into the trap and adopted the approach “I will believe it when I can see it”.

However, this approach of “I will believe it when I can see it” can actually hold us back.  As there usually is, there is an alternaview we should try to adopt instead.

Self Motivation: Belief Should Come First – The alternaview

Instead of buying into the approach of “I will believe it when I can see it”, we would be so much better off if we could adopt different thinking and understand that in order to see it, we have to first believe it. When it comes to accomplishing anything, belief has got to come first.  We have to actually believe we can have something and once we can convince ourselves that it is possible, that is when we will see what we want come to fruition.

It is all about really believing you can and should have what you desire.

As a result, the best thing we can do is to chip away at limiting beliefs or thoughts that are standing in our way of believing that we can achieve something. Instead of requiring signs that something is coming to fruition, we should instead focus our energy on making sure that we believe.  That we believe in what we are pursuing and that we believe we are more than capable of attaining it.

I am sure you have heard this advice and recommendation expressed before:

“You Will See It, When You Believe It.”   Wayne Dyer

“Your belief determines your action and your action determines your results, but first you have to believe.”     Mark Victor Hansen

“Some things have to be believed to be seen.”   Ralph Hodgson

These are all expressions of the same truth and once we really understand and subscribe to this thinking, we will really be able to see our desires manifesting.  We will be less likely to be held back by limiting beliefs and we will no longer require proof that we can have what we want.  We will increase our confidence in our ability to achieve whatever it is we desire and we will set ourselves up to continually be able to do so.

How to use this alternaview:

1. Look really closely. It may be challenging to see the beliefs that are holding you back.  You may have always been a confident person and have had a life filled with accomplishments and success.  However, even if this is the case, it is possible that somewhere deep down inside, you are holding limiting beliefs about what you can actually accomplish.  Be on the lookout for them because they can be subtle.

2. Be willing to chip away at limiting beliefs. Getting rid of limiting beliefs is usually a process.  There is not a magical solution that allows you to completely rid yourself of them instantly.  As you are working through eliminating them, you may feel you have been successful, but then time will pass, another challenge will arise, and you will see your limiting belief return.  Know that you have to continually work at getting rid of limiting beliefs until they disappear permanently.

3. Play up your confidence. Even if you aren’t 100% confident in the beginning that you can accomplish something, keep pushing yourself to understand and accept the reality that you can have what you desire.  It is necessary to do some reprogramming and playing up your confidence is a good way to begin that reprogramming.

4. Reflect on Your Success. Think about all those things you have accomplished and reflect on how you felt about them just before they came true.  Remember that feeling of confidence you had that your dream was finally coming true.  You genuinely believed you had done everything you could and that you had earned your right to success. This is the same feeling that you should be shooting for anytime you set a goal.

5. Believe in the process. You have to be confident that as long as you genuinely follow the process, it will indeed work for you.  Know that you really can create your own reality and get what you want … you just need to believe in the process and learn how to integrate it into your life.

Conclusion

Don’t allow yourself to be held back by limiting beliefs.  Don’t require certain things to happen and appear before you believe you are capable of attaining what you want.  It is time to let go of any notions of “I will believe it when I see it”.  Flip it all around and know that as long as you believe in what you are going after and believe you are capable of having it, then it will become your reality … that is the alternaview.

Do you agree with this alternaview?  Please share your thoughts in the comments section.