Have you ever known someone who continues to be confronted with the same issue over and over again? Perhaps this is even something you are personally familiar with? For some reason, there is an issue that continually arises in your life in different circumstances.
Maybe you have continually struggled with the same issues in relationships? Maybe you keep encountering similar challenges at work or with your career? Maybe the same feelings that have held you back from accomplishing everything you can continue to crop up in other situations?
It is not uncommon to run into the same issues and challenges over and over again. Although the circumstances change, the underlying issues can continue to rear their ugly head from time to time in different situations.
And, the logical question is why? Why would the same issues, such as, fear, doubt, obstacles or the same challenges, arise in our lives over and over again in all different types of situations? “Why does this continually keep happening to me?”
Live and Learn: The alternaview
If you continue to experience the same issue or challenge time and time again, it most likely means there is more for you to learn. This is by no means a bad thing, it simply means you have an opportunity to gather some more information and insights that you may have not grasped the first time you encountered the issue.
There is a lesson within the situation that is yours for the taking, you just have to figure out exactly what that lesson is and then make certain you learn it.
This is one of the best things we can do because it sets us up to really grow and learn from every single experience and issue that comes our way. Instead of resenting or questioning challenges and obstacles, we focus our energy on learning from them and set ourselves up to overcome them in the future when they arise again … and they always will in one way or another until we learn from them.
Many times these lessons are the keys to our success and they will serve as the foundation of something amazing we are going to accomplish in the future. We just have to be open to understanding and figure out how to behave differently so we can avoid making the same mistakes we have made before.
It’s easy to fall into the trap where we blame other people for the situation we are in or assume we are just having a string of bad luck. And, while it is certainly true that other people can contribute and cause some of our challenges, there is always a reason why we are personally being affected. It is not something to beat yourself up over, but rather just to understand there is a reason for everything and we have more to learn.
How to use this alternaview:
1. Be on the lookout for repeated issues. We can get so caught up in the issues we are managing through that we overlook the fact that we have experienced something very similar before. You have to be on the lookout for situations or issues that continually arise because there always is a reason. Recognize the similarities so that you can learn and focus on doing things differently.
2. Be open to learning. You have to be open to learning and understand that if you are going through a challenge or if you have encountered an obstacle, there is something for you to learn. You should have a deep desire to learn and want to figure out how to live each day better than you did the day before.
3. Try to not make the same mistake more than twice. It is highly probable that we are going to make mistakes at least once, and even possible that we will make them twice. However, if we are really tuned in and paying attention, we should catch on to the lesson by the third time. Really focus on what is coming your way and try to learn lessons by the second time around.
4. “When you Lose, Don’t Lose The Lesson”. This is a quote I came across and it is such an important piece of advice. When things don’t go as planned, we should always make sure we are taking away a lesson. Don’t get caught up in your disappointment with a situation, step back and ask yourself, what is the lesson? What can you take away from this situation?
5. Plan out how you will handle it differently next time. Once you understand the lesson, it is important to develop a plan on how you will behave differently if the situation arises again in the future. Figure out how you will improve your response the next time so that when it arises, you can easily recognize it and know how to handle it.
Conclusion
We are all very well aware that life is our training ground. We are supposed to live and learn from the situations and experiences that occur. This means that we must have a heightened sense of awareness and be focused on integrating the things we learn and our wisdom into our every day decisions and actions. Understand that life will provide you with every lesson you need to know, as long as you are open to learning … that is the alternaview.
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