Do you focus on how you want to grow as a person? Do you have a philosophy or any beliefs of the type of person you are working to be? Are you looking to change anything about yourself or are there things you want to improve about your mindset or internal belief system?
It is so common for people to have goals and things they are working to accomplish in the world. So many of us set goals and then work hard toward what we want to achieve and accomplish. However, what about our internal development? How much time do we spend looking within and focusing on growing into the type of person that we want to be? Do we have a vision of what that is? Do we have an understanding of how we want to change and grow as we move through life?
It is not uncommon and it is understandable that people will focus the majority of their attention on the external world and the things they are doing and trying to accomplish. These things can easily consume the majority of our attention because they are easy to see and right in front of us everyday. It is easy to see our responsibilities and what we want to accomplish in the world, and not always as obvious as to how we want to and should grow as a person. As a result, it is easy to spend the majority of our time focusing on anything and everything else except for who we are.
However, who we are and our development into the person we want to be is one of the most important things we can focus on. Having a vision of our ideal mindset and who we are working to become allows us to ensure we are learning the lessons we should be and focusing a significant part of our attention in the direction it should be pointed.
What type of mindset do we want to have to set ourselves up to be happy and successful? How do we want feel as we move through our days? How much self confidence do we want to aim to have? How do we want to go about managing challenges and issues that come our way?
These are questions that have to do with our internal mindset that we need to focus on and work on so that we continue to grow into the person we know we are meant to be.
We all know that life is about living and learning and that overtime we are going to naturally learn more about who we are and grow and develop as a person. But, if we put a significant amount of our attention on how we are growing internally and make certain we are doing those things that are necessary to support our growth and development, we can really accelerate the process. We can make certain we are paying attention to the lessons that are coming our way and we can expose ourselves to information that will strengthen things about ourselves we know need to be strengthened and developed.
How to use this alternaview:
1. Do an Internal Gap Analysis: Think about the person you are right now and then envision the person you want to be. Is there a gap between where you are now and where you want to be? This is not an exercise to beat yourself up or make you feel badly about anything about yourself. It should just be an honest exploration of where you are now and where you want to be. You need to have some idea of the the direction you want to grow in so that you can lean in the right direction.
2. What’s the plan? If you have identified any gaps, it is time to think through the best ways you can begin working to fill those gaps. How can you strengthen your self confidence? How can you chip away at limiting beliefs? How can you develop the right type of mindset to tackle and manage through any issues or challenges that come your way? Think through the things you can do everyday to fill in the gaps.
3. Keep it top of mind. There is always going to be so much going on in the world and all around you. You have to prioritize your internal development and make certain to focus a significant part of your attention on how you are developing everyday and not get completely sucked into the external world and the things you are dealing with.
4. Be on the Lookout for Lessons. Once you prioritize working on your internal development useful lessons will come your way but, they will often be disguised and may not be immediately obvious. For example, let’s say you have decided you want to work on becoming more patient and forgiving. It is highly possible that someone will do something that will require you to be patient and forgiving. However, often times we just react to situations and people in ways we always have and if we are not looking for the lessons that come our way, we may miss a lot of opportunities to learn and grow.
There is a different way to live … that is the alternaview.