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30 Things You Really Really Must Know to Succeed in Life

1. It is much better to be kind than it is to be right.

2. If at first you don’t succeed, there is a reason why and it is best to figure it out and not just blindly try again.

3. You have 60,000 thoughts a day and if you control those thoughts so that they are not negative and interfere with your peace of mind, you will really be able to live in an amazing way.

4. Always answer the phone with a great tone that shows how pleasant you are.

5. If you can stop complaining, your life will improve tenfold.

6. You need to take time for yourself everyday and unplug and unwind. Do something you enjoy.

7. Your best tool for success is to be authentic. Just “Do You”.

8. It is not your job to change people. It is your job to change yourself.

9. Challenging and difficult people are often times your best teachers for tolerance and patience.

10. In order to have complete confidence, you have to chip away and eliminate all doubts. It is a process.

11. The #1 thing you should always try to do is focus on whatever is in front of you and pour all of your passion and positive energy into what you are doing.

12. Your actions, thoughts and behaviors really matter and impact your entire life. It is never okay to be a jerk.

13. Life puts in front of you exactly what you need at that precise moment in time.

14. If you don’t see the lesson in a failure or challenge … keep looking.

15. It’s not about always being in control and knowing exactly what will happen next. You need to trust in what comes your way and sometimes it is best to just ride the wave.

16. It is never too late … that is really just another excuse.

17. There is nothing more important than your peace of mind.

18. The stories we buy into about ourselves and our potential should never be limiting or anything that couldĀ  hold us back.

19. We can’t control how other people behave, but we can control how we react and if we allow other people to negatively impact our peace of mind.

20. You don’t have to just do things the way you always have. You really can experience the most growth when you move beyond your comfort zone.

21. Don’t tell yourself that something is going to be difficult to accomplish. Just focus on the step you are taking now and do it with the utmost quality.

22. A lot of our attention and effort should be directed to how we are growing and becoming a better human being day after day.

23. Sometimes the best thing to do is to let go … so that something that is better and meant to be can happen.

24. There really is no such thing as a failure. Everything is an opportunity to learn and we get to choose how we see and classify our experiences.

25. You can be too risk averse and end up missing out on some really good opportunities that would have worked to your advantage if only you had allowed them to take form and evolve.

26. Don’t allow your desire for success to overshadow your appreciation for the journey and everything you will learn along the way.

27. Every step you take will not be a quantum leap forward. Appreciate the little steps too because they are just as important.

28. Be flexible and never get rattled when things don’t go exactly as planned. Everything that happens is for your highest good.

29. “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly” Anonymous

30. We should always look for alternaviews and search to see things in the best light that will allow us to live today in a better way than we did yesterday.

There is a different way to live … that is the alternaview.

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  1. 1

    Hi Sibyl,

    Wonderful list! I would like to comment on the first one though “It is better to be kind rather than be right.” This is so true my friend and it is one of the habits that I worked on so it becomes part of me and ingrained in me. I can tell you it makes a huge difference in our relationships. Thanks for sharing the list my friend, very excellent job :)

    • 2

      Dia: Thanks for the comment and letting us know that it really does work. It is always great to hear how things are working in the real world and confirm that the things we know and learn actually do play out in our best interest. Thanks so much for the comment and stopping by. Much appreciated.

  2. 3

    I like #22. I try to live everyday and improve as a person, even if it’s in a smaller way such as being a tad more compassionate, having a bit more inner peace, learning something about the world or about myself, or helping someone smile.

    • 4

      Henway: I love that. That really is what it is all about. It is all about growing and getting stronger and learning more and more as we move through life.

  3. 5

    Hi Sibyl, this is a great list.

    I loved No.7 – Just Do You! – It can be really difficult being yourself sometimes as we have learned to wear so many masks in life: the husband, the father, the friend, the work colleague, the blogger, the lover, and You! Over the years I have slowly learned that it’s easier just being myself at all times and in all situations. It’s still tricky sometimes, but so much easier :)

    • 6

      Steve: I agree … it is tricky, but in the end it is always easier and more natural when we are ourselves. We just have so much more success when we are authentic and genuine. Thank you so much for the kind words about the post. I am so glad that you liked it and that you took the time to stop by. I really do appreciate it.

  4. 7

    Sibyl,

    Great post. Clean, insightful and to point. Love this. I will retweet this.

    Namaste,

    Linda

    • 8

      Linda: Thank you so much for the kind words and feedback on the post. I am so glad that you liked it and am appreciative that you will retweet it:)

  5. 9

    Sibyl,

    This was great. #16 is my favorite. I don’t care how sucky your existing life may be. Until you are dead, 6 feet under ground, and are lifeless, breathless, and motionless you still have a chance. You don’t have the right to give up. It’s never too late.

    30 great tips. Thanks for sharing.

    • 10

      Frank: Thanks for the comment. You are soooo right. There is never a reason to talk yourself out of pursuing something. It is all about having the confidence to pursue what you want and never using excuses. Thanks so much for the comment. I am glad that you liked the list.

  6. 11

    Hi Sibyl,

    This is a great list on things we should know to succeed in life. I particularly like:

    2. I agree that we should always learn from our mistakes and failures. Insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results. If we can adapt and adjust, we are likelier to reach our goals.

    6. Having personal time each day is important. If we do not unwind by doing the things we love, stress and fatigue will build up. Over time, it will become harder and harder to be productive. Relaxation is essential to success, but we need to remember balance.

    21. Love this. “Don’t tell yourself that something is going to be difficult to accomplish. Just focus on the step you are taking now and do it with the utmost quality.” One of the mottos that has changed my life is to focus on the solution and not the problem. This has made a world of difference because I channel my energy and thought process in a more productive way.

    Thank you for sharing this lovely article! :)

    Irving the Vizier

    • 12

      Irving: Thanks for the comment and stopping by. I am so glad that you liked this list. I really appreciated what you said about adapting and adjusting. We can’t just continue to do the same things over and over again and expect different results. That really is why we have to be willing to learn from our failures. Thanks for the comment. Much appreciated.

  7. 13

    Sibyl,

    A wonderful list of empowering ideas. A sense of control and confidence is so important to living the life we desire. Our perspectives about what has happened and is happening leads to either feel empowered and capable or relatively hopeless. There certainly is a better way to live and this list offers great pointers!

    • 14

      Joe: Thank you so much for the comment and stopping by. I am so glad that you liked the list. It really is about living a life filled with confidence. Thank you again for the comment and stopping by. Much appreciated.

  8. 15

    Hello Sibyl -

    Love number 27. Taking baby steps is a sure way to keep motivated because the results are easier to identify. Swinging for the fences that’s fine, but we have to keep in mind that we’ll strike out more often. Hitting singles, doubles and triples allow us to better gauge or results.
    In time, a grand slam is achieved!

    Great work as always Sibyl!

    • 16

      JK Allen: Love the baseball analogy. It really is about hitting singles, doubles and triples. Such a great point. You can’t always expect to hit a home run. Thanks so much for the comment and stopping by. Much appreciated.

  9. 17

    Love it and so, so true! Working to get beyond the comfort zone – that is my biggest challenge. You have taught me so much in the 24 years I’ve known you! You continue to be my rock, my guide and most importantly, my best friend. xoxo, als

    • 18

      Hey Als: Thanks for the comment. It really is all about getting beyond your comfort zone:) Thanks for the kind words. You are my rock as well :) xoxo

  10. 19

    Sibyl,
    Wow! Thank you for sharing the alternaview! I love each and every point..very inspiring and encouraging to know that others choose to live in a similar way:) I cannot pick a favorite because they are all distinctly do-able and life enriching!

    • 20

      Joy: Thanks for the comment and the kind words. I am so glad that you liked the post and the list. I am also glad that you thought the list was inspiring. It is always great to hear your feedback. Thanks for stopping by.

  11. 21

    Hey Sibyl!

    I was going to try and pick a few of my favourites from you incredible list, but I would just end up mentioning them all! : )

    If everyone who reads this applies at least one of these principals in their own lives, the world will be a better place!

    Thanks!

    • 22

      Mike: Thank you for stopping by and thank you for the kind words. I am so glad that you enjoyed the list. It means a lot. Thanks again.

  12. 23
    Michelle says:

    Hey Sis~

    Excellent article! All of them are great…I really like #6.

    6. Having personal time each day is important. If we do not unwind by doing the things we love, stress and fatigue will build up. Over time, it will become harder and harder to be productive. Relaxation is essential to success, but we need to remember balance.

    • 24

      What up Michelle. Glad you found your way here :) Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment. Glad that you liked the article :)

  13. 25

    Hi Sibly!

    Just sitting here “relaxing”…operated a room today for different doctor’s powerpoint presentations…ended being a 14 hour work day.

    I like #6

    Was able to read ‘The Way of Zen’ during breaks between presentations and on my lunch break outside in the sun overlooking our harbor… yes…relaxing.

    Will buy my fishing license to get back kayak and surf fishing + some golf clubs to start golfing again with some of my co-workers.

    Just might drive out to Palm Canyon in the Anza- Borrego Desert tomorrow for a hike.

    Work hard / Play hard

    but also one can…

    Work easy / Play easy

  14. 27

    Oh…just checked. I am the only one to thus far miss-spell your name this time around…perhaps my brain is a bit too “relaxed” at the moment.

  15. 29
    sarbast says:

    hi lady.wonderfull list.beside your picture you have written about that 40 day of not complaining.I tried that for a 30 day period and it was wonderfull even after these 9 years.please keep up the good work.you are really making some differences in the world.

    wish you happiness
    sarbast

    • 30

      Thank you so much for the kind words and comment. It’s comments like those that really make me smile and remind me time and time again how much I enjoy being able to write and blog. I am going to be launching a new challenge in July and hope you will jump on board…especially since you will be an expert since you have dones something similar before :) Have a great weekend.

  16. 31

    nice one

  17. 33

    SUCCESS IS SUCH A WAY IN WHICH U WILL GET UR GOAL AND ACHIEVE EVERYTHING IN LIFE.
    THIS IS ABSOLUTELY A TRUE FACT IN LIFE. THIS IS CALLED WHAT “SUCCESS”