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10 Mistakes That It Really Is Okay For You to Make

I love making mistakes … what about you?

There is nothing better than really just messing things up completely and knowing for sure it is all your fault and that you should have done things differently.

Okay, so I really don’t like making mistakes and I am sure you don’t either.

But, what I do love is learning from my mistakes.

Realizing that I have learned a valuable lesson that will stick with me for the rest of my life and knowing I will never make the same mistake again.

So, I thought it would be cool to take a look at some common mistakes that can really prove valuable as long as we take away the right lessons.

I know I have personally made some of these mistakes … okay the majority of these mistakes … okay ALL of these mistakes.

Hey, it’s all about living and learning … right?

The possibility exists for us to learn something every single day and to have an aha moment. Sometimes it is the smallest insight that just puts everything into perspective and allows us to take a huge step forward.

What are you going to learn TODAY? What will your aha moment be?

10 mistakes everyone should make and 10 lessons everyone should take away

1. Fall in “love” with someone for all the wrong reasons that is so wrong for you …

so that when real love comes your way you accept it, enjoy it, recognize it, appreciate it, and realize why the person you are now with is so perfect for you.

2. Recognize that something is not the best decision. Choose to make the wrong decision anyway and then suffer all the terrible consequences …

so that you learn one of the most important lessons of life. You have to always follow your truth and do what you know deep down is right.

3. Take something for granted, ignore it or stop recognizing its value and then have it taken from you …

so that after its gone you understand there is nothing more important than appreciating and having gratitude for all you have. Appreciation really is how you keep great things in your life and how you attract more and more great things.

4. Be so upset at someone and totally unable to forgive them that the anger just eats at you and totally weighs you down …

so that when your anger finally subsides and you find your way to forgiveness you recognize how liberating it is and how much better you feel when you free your mind from all the negativity that comes along with anger. You realize that forgiveness really is the only way.

5. When something goes wrong, allow yourself to wallow in your misery, get all upset, feel hopeless, and unable to see the light at the end of the tunnel …

so it becomes obvious that when you manage through issues with the wrong mindset, you only exacerbate the issue and make things way more painful than they need to be.

6. Be totally rude, angry and get into a huge fight with someone and end up having the worse day where everything else just seems to go wrong …

so that when tomorrow comes and you have calmed down and have a better day you understand that you ruin your day when you get emotionally entangled with anyone (even if you are right). You have to always be aware of the energy you are putting out there because that really is what you get back.

7. Totally question yourself and your abilities and have such a lack of confidence and limiting beliefs that you hold yourself back and don’t get what you were working for …

so that when the next thing you want comes along, from the very beginning you realize that in order to ever get what you want, you have to chip away at all limiting beliefs and know deep down what you are really capable of accomplishing.

8. Be misguided and think that what really matters most is your career and your success …

so that when you reach your ultimate goal and realize there still is something missing, you start searching in the right direction for the things that really matter and are important in life. You realize that you can still have those things you always wanted, but you know they are not the most important things in life.

9. Think and expect the worse and know for sure that things are never going to work out the way you want and then be disappointed when they don’t and wonder why …

so that you can figure out that perception really is reality and you have to always be careful of the thoughts and expectations you are putting out there.

10. Be totally caught up in the whirlwind of life and move from one thing to the next like so many other people that are just on autopilot and going through the motions …

so that when you finally wake up you realize there really is a different way to live and all you need to do to live in this different way is to take advantage of all the possibilities of Today to learn, improve and to just get better and better at living.

Live Today Better than Yesterday.

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  1. 1

    This is a fantastic post Sybil. After reading this, I am feeling good about some mistakes I have already made from this list. Amazingly written and richly motivating…thanks for the post. It turned my mind around…

    • 2

      Thank you Jaky for the comment and the kind words. I am so glad that you enjoyed the post and no more beating yourself up for mistakes … especially when you learn the lesson:)

  2. 3

    Interesting twist on making mistakes. Years ago, I would intentionally make mistakes like accidentally dropping papers or misspelling words, to not be a perfectionist. This exercise really helped me to loosen up. Thank you for presenting the upside of making mistakes. We can learn much more when things go wrong than when they go right. :-)

    • 4

      Thanks for dropping by Lisa … What you said is so true. It really is all about living and learning. So glad that you enjoyed the post.

  3. 5

    Wow, I must be a genius by now because I have made every one of those mistakes!

  4. 7

    Sibyl,

    You have just taken all the stress and bad feeling out of making mistakes. Thank you. Now I can say, I’m glad I made that bad choice or was in that deadend relationship or held onto a grudge. And the funny thing is that we keep repeating these problems until we do learn the lesson.

    Psychologists talk about one-trial learning. If we accept what we do and learn from it, sooner rather than later, we can save ourselves a lot of heartache.

    And Galen, I love your comment!

    • 8

      I like that … one trial learning. That is so my new goal :) It is so true that the lesson will just continue to come back over and over again until we learn it. Thanks so much for the comment Gail and dropping by.

  5. 9

    Yes, I think there is a diploma somewhere in my drawer that I received due to the mastering of these 10…man that was a lot of units!

    This student sure respects and admires his teacher…feels truly sorry for his mistakes, and would love a simple *trial* of forgiveness. Please??

  6. 11

    Hi Sibyl,
    This a beautifully written post.
    First it tells of something silly or harmful we have all done at one time or another and then second, positively turns it around and leaves us feeling that despite that we are really ok.
    And hell, maybe we even did ourselves a favour by making those mistakes. Love it!!
    Shona.

    • 12

      Shona: Thanks so much for the comment and I am so glad that you liked the post. I think you are right … as long as we are learning the lessons, there definitely is value in making the mistakes:) Thanks for dropping by.

  7. 13

    Hi Sibyl,

    I am not fond of making mistakes, but I know I will make them anyway. But like you, I do make it a point to learn from the mistakes I make so that I can avoid needless problems in the future. Hmm of the 10 mistakes and lessons you have listed, the following stand out for me.

    5. Self-pity and wallowing in misery taught me the importance of focusing on solutions instead of the problem. When I resolve the root cause of the issue at hand, there is no more reason for me to feel sorry for myself. This was not an easy lesson for me to learn, but when I finally manage to distill its essence, I applied it to all areas of my life with great effect.

    7. I also struggled with confidence and limiting beliefs issues. Here, I chose to break things down into manageable bits so that with each small success I had, my confidence grew and the momentum built up. With time, things began to turn in my favour, reinforcing my confidence. Again it is also important to focus on the solutions. Life is truly a matter of perception and how we perceive events can make a world of difference in our ability to manage.

    Thank you for sharing this lovely article! :)

    Irving the Vizier

    • 14

      Irving: Thanks for the comment and stopping by. I think it is great that you have learned from your mistakes and you have made a point to always do that. I really think that is what it is all about. The reality is that we are going to always have lessons that are coming our way and if we are paying attention and learning, we really can propel ourselves forward in so many ways. Thanks so much for the comment.

  8. 15

    Hi Sibyl,

    I love that you reply to every comment people post. I read your blog religiously everyday. It is like my morning coffee ( and I dont drink coffee). I am currently a university student and I find myself confused, lost, over analyzing and questioning every decisions that I make. I love reading blogs that lift up my spirit and teach me how to be in control and help me understand my feelings.

    Thanks and keep them comming.

    FeFe
    Windsor, Ontario
    Canada

    • 16

      Fefe…Wow…thank you so much for the comment and the kind words. I really appreciate the feedback and it means so much to me that you are dropping by and liking what you find here. I totally remember my college years and exactly what you described in terms of trying to figure out exactly who you are and what you want out of life. I actually think it is a great thing that you are noticing and analyzing and looking to figure things out. So many people don’t even realize the need for self-discovery and you are already on that path:) That is such a great thing. Just keep doing you and know that clarity will come more and more. If you have any questions or think there is anything I can help with, don’t hesitate to send me an e-mail:) Thanks again for the comment and dropping by. It is great to have you here.

  9. 17

    Sibyl…Thanks for this great post. It puts so many of our common mistakes into perspective! I love the new site design. Very clean and readable! :)

    • 18

      Hey Steve: Thanks for the comment and stopping by. So glad that you liked the post. Thanks also for the feedback on the site design. I am still tweaking some things, but it is good to hear I am moving in the right direction.

  10. 19

    Okay, I really want to go with these, but knowing me after all these years I know a couple of them just aren’t going to happen. I’m thinking most specifically about #4; I don’t quite tend to be the forgiving type. I’m certainly not the forgetting type. I get on with things, which means I don’t let them keep me down long, but forgiveness… rarely have been able to cross the one off my list.

    But that’s the only one; I’m down with the rest of them, although luckily there’s a couple on the list I’ve never really had to deal with; whew!

    • 20

      Mitch: Thanks for the comment. I think it is good that you don’t let things weigh on your mind … I do think you should try out the forgiving thing :) Once you do it more and more I promise you will love it. The most important thing though as you mentioned is that you move on. Thanks for the comment and stopping by.

  11. 21

    Sibyl, I used this phrase in my blogworld speech: “If you fail in vain, it’s a shame.” – failure is a strong word for mistakes naturally but my point is that if we do not learn form our mistakes, then they were made for no reason. And mistakes, we all make. :)

    • 22

      I like that quote Farnoosh. Sure wish I could have seen that speech :) What you said is so true though … we really waste time if we don’t learn from mistakes. That really is what it is all about. Thanks so much for the comment and for dropping by.

  12. 23

    Brilliant Sibyl, totally stellar. Great truth that to be happy we first need to make ourselves unhappy and to become wise we have to first experience the unwise in our actions and choices. We’re shining the diamond that we are. Mega thanks for a mega message!

    • 24

      Hey John: Thanks for the comment. I do believe that life is about living and learning and the reality is that we are probably going to make some mistakes from time to time. As long as we are learning from them, we can be guaranteed to be moving in the right direction. Thanks again for the comment.

  13. 25

    hello sibyl

    how are you?

    i am the perfect candidate for all the mistakes listed in your article

    as the days, months and years have gone by,i try as much as possible to learn from them, not punish myself unnecessarily, sometimes take it on the chin lightly and finally open myself to a new experience.

    i have accepted a well known fact that i will always make mistakes because i am human but it’s not licence to become irresponsible.

    having said that, mistakes humble me, enable me accept my imperfections, give me the understanding of the wrong choices/bad judgements i made, cause me to take
    responsibility for my actions making me me wiser.

    thanks for sharing.

    take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

    • 26

      Hey Ayo: I agree with you that you don’t want to make irresponsible decisions just because. I also thought what you said about making mistakes and understanding the lessons that are underneath the mistakes. That really is what it is all about. Thanks so much for the comment and for stopping by.

  14. 27

    Hi Sibyl,

    I did a post last year sometime that had some similarities to this one. Basically I made the call that we’re going to fail – it’s bound to happen. So, we might as well take action sooner than later to allow the possibility of failure to take its course. And when /if it happens – then we take that as a lessons…better preparing us for our next take. So basically, the quicker we fail, the quicker we can succeed.

    Your post was MUCH better than mine – but this reminded me of it.

    Exceptional work here Sibyl. I loved the 10 mistakes examples. Great idea to help drive the message!

    PEACE

    • 28

      Hey JK: How are you doing? I highly doubt my post was MUCH better than yours:) Thanks so much for the kind words though. Always appreciated:) So glad that you liked the 10 mistakes examples. I think what you said about your post and learning as much as we can as soon as possible is so important. The quicker you learn the lesson the better.

  15. 29

    Hi Sibyl,

    Number ten on your list is where I was before I started my blog. Although I haven’t completely broken free I’ve certainly started down a different path and an entire new journey. Thanks for sharing such a great post.

    • 30

      Hey Todd: Thanks so much for dropping by. I think it is so cool that your blog has freed you from the whirlwind of life. Isn’t it just too easy to get sucked in? Glad you are free :)