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Why You Must Stop Worrying About Tomorrow and Focus on Today

I sure hope things work out the way I want them to. It could be really bad and I will be disappointed if they don’t. I really need things to fall into place. I am hoping for the best, but I definitely have some concerns in the back of my mind. Things just have to work out.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Many of us spend way too much time either focused on tomorrow or worrying about tomorrow because we want things to work out a certain way.

I can think of way too many occasions when I have definitely been guilty of this.

I want things to work out as I have planned and I envision all the different steps and exactly what will have to happen in order for things to fall into place just as I want. I come up with the play by play of what will be required …

First this has to happen … and then I need for this to happen … and then …

It’s easy to fall into the trap of focusing or worrying way too much about tomorrow and what we have decided must happen for things to work out as we want.

We have somehow reached the conclusion that it is our job to predict and plan each step and then try to line things up to play out just right.

We become a major micro manager … or so we think, because that is actually not our role.

Yes, we are supposed to follow our truth, decide what we want, believe that we can get it and then pour our passion and energy into it and really go for it.

But, it is not in our job description to decide step by step how things will happen, when they will happen and how specifically they need to play out in order for us to move in the right direction.

Sometimes, we just have to let go a little and trust that if we do everything we can and should TODAY things will work out just as they should tomorrow.

There really is no need to worry about tomorrow or to focus too much on tomorrow. Our attention, and efforts are much better spent focusing on TODAY.

it’s all about today

What we have absolute control over is how we perform today.

What effort we put into whatever we are doing. What we learn today. How we apply our knowledge and the lessons we have learned.  And, the energy and attention we direct to the task that is right in front of us.

There is so much possibility in our hands TODAY to really push things in the right direction, but we totally can miss out on it if we are overly concerned or focusing way too much on tomorrow.

Tomorrow will come and it will be whatever it is.

Today is here right now staring you in the face. There are so many things you can and should be taking advantage of:

  • Do whatever you can do TODAY that will really move you in the direction you want to go
  • Pour all of your passion and positive energy into whatever is right in front of you TODAY
  • Do everything TODAY with the utmost attention to detail and give it all you have
  • Let go of any fears and know that you can do whatever is right in front of you TODAY in the best way

The most interesting thing is that when we we turn all of our attention and focus on doing all we can TODAY in an amazing way, everything falls into place tomorrow just as it should.

Living Today in the best way we humanly can always sets us up to have a better tomorrow. There really is no need to worry about tomorrow when you are living today the right way.

Live Today Better than Yesterday.

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Comments

  1. 1

    Nice Sybil! Sounds like a familiar message for me. It is when we give up the worrying when things seem to go so smoothly. Thank for this reminder :)

    • 2

      Hey Kenya. So glad that you liked the message and it really is all about giving up the worrying. That really is when we free ourselves up to live in the most amazing way.

  2. 3

    Helloooo Sibyl,
    I hear you and I couldn’t agree more. Today is THE day, NOW is The moment. By all means plan, that’s commonsense however don’t forget to Live, dream,imagine,embrace each moment. Love your work.
    be good to yourself
    David

    • 4

      Thanks for the comment and dropping by David. Loved what you said about not forgetting to dream, imagine, and embrace each moment. So true…

  3. 5

    Sibyl,
    I love this reminder that TODAY is what we have – and where our focus should be. Those moments of worry, they are just not worth it…

    • 6

      So true Lance. The moments of worry are never worth much of anything. It’s all about focusing on today and living it in an amazing way.

  4. 7

    There’s a lot to be said for being here, now, and focusing on today.

    The catch of course is, when it comes to delayed gratification, which is correlated with key success patterns. I think the trick is to savor the moment, be in the now, fully engage in what you do … and balance that with trade-offs for the longer term.

    My favorite saying from one of my mentors that encapsulates this concept is:
    “Live each day like it’s your last, but plan to live a 100 years.”

    • 8

      I love that saying J.D. Thanks for sharing it here. You are so right that there is a lot to be said for being here, now and focusing on today. That really is what it is all about and when we can pour all of our passion and positive energy into Today, we really are guaranteed a better tomorrow.

  5. 9

    Sibyl,

    I’ve spent far too much of my life worried about the future. Your message rings so true for me. There’s so much freedom in staying present in the moment and giving our all to today. Thanks for the reminder.

  6. 10

    Hey Sibyl, I must apologise for not checking out your site sooner! I heard from John Sherry that you had made an overhaul, and you’ve done a really great job here!

    Now, onto the post. Today is all we have. Yesterday is gone, and although we can still learn things from it, it’s officially dead. And tomorrow will never come. But tomorrow is also shaped by what we do today, and it’s this that defines who we are in the present moment, in the today. All we have is today :-)

    • 11

      Hey Stu: Thanks for dropping by and thanks for the feedback on the site. I really appreciate it. All we have is today is so right. As you mentioned, it really is all about living in the present moment. Thanks for the comment and for dropping by.

  7. 12

    Hello Sibyl!

    Well, I am off work *today*!

    I just finished working ‘The American Hospital Association Leadership Summit’. It was held at one of our major hotels here in San Diego.

    For a major General Session like this one, what we do from the loading dock to the setting up of video, lighting, audio, data, rigging, pipe and drape, graphics, video cameras, front of house, back stage operating world, and the Green Room on the very first day is paramount for tomorrow.

    If one and all are doing their best *Today* we will eliminate many of the possibilities for things that could go wrong tomorrow.

    Good stagehands always think of the ‘Out’…meaning having everything set up and staged logically in place for breaking down the event. Whether a Concert, General Session, Break-Out Rooms, or Theater. This is always done *Today* and refined each consecutive day until the ‘Load Out’. An example of this was the realization I had that no one ever pluged in the scissor lift back stage to re-charge it’s battery…I thought of it yesterday morning…yes it was *Today*. The battery was very low…would of been in a fine mess later on in the day.

    During the event it is all about *Focus* whether one is show director, on camera, video switching, preparing mics for presenters and key note speakers, audio mixing, lighting cues, or an all around “utility person” as I was on this show call.

    “What effort we put into whatever we are doing. What we learn today. How we apply our knowledge and the lessons we have learned. And, the energy and attention we direct to the task that is right in front of us.”

    I love what you said here Sibyl…almost like you were back stage with me the past few days!

    Our Key Note Speakers:
    Tom Brokaw
    Mike Krzyzewski
    Chip Heath
    Fareed Zakaria
    Lee Woodward

    Us Techs were *focused* back stage, but boy we all picked up some knowledge from these people…also from one another!

    Thanks Sibyl!

    • 13

      Sounds like a great event Rand and you are right that is the perfect example of Living Today in an amazing way. Thanks so much for the comment.

  8. 14

    Hey Sibyl,
    This is such an important that you make here. It’s about living moment to moment. We can cause ourselves so much unnecessary anxiety and stress out of worry. What’s worse is that all that worry and anxiety hamper our ability to think creatively and feel energized. Even scripture says not to worry about tomorrow for today comes with it’s own set of trials. Living life day-by-day is the surest way to reduce stress in your life and as the health reports reflect, we could all use a lot less stress!

    • 15

      So true Marlee. It really is all about living in the moment and focusing on what you can do that is right in front of you. No need to worry about tomorrow when you are living today in the greatest way. Thanks so much for the comment and stopping by.

  9. 16

    Hi Sibyl,
    Thank you for focusing on this subject. I can definitely testify that letting go of worrying clears your head to focus on making today the best it can be. This lesson didn’t come naturally to me as I was a born worrier.

    My perspective began to shift many years ago when I met a 92 year old woman on a flight from Atlanta to Seattle who traveled alone from one end of the country to the other every three months to spend time with her grandchildren. She had the most beautiful spirit of anyone I had ever met. I asked her what her secret was to her ageless energy and positive attitude. Her advise to me was, “Don’t spend your time worrying about anything.”

    I often reflect on her advice when I begin to feel overwhelmed about the future. After years of working hard to put that advice into practice – and as I have gotten older – I know that her wisdom was likely very well-earned.

    You know me well ( I am one of your biggest fans!!). But did you know that over the years it has been your beautiful spirit that has righted my steps when I have strayed off the path to being worry-free. Thanks for the nudges and don’t ever stop.
    Mimi

    • 17

      Hey Mimi :) So glad to see you back here and thanks for the amazing comment. I love that story and I think it is all so helpful for all of us to hear that wisdom. Thanks for sharing it. Isn’t it always so great how the universe whispers to us and sends us messengers that have the perfect messages for us that can just point us in the direction we need to go. I think it is so great that you still reflect on the wisdom that passenger shared with you all that time ago. I am also so glad that I have been able to help you stay on the path of being worry-free. That is really what it is all about and the way we meant to live life. Thank you for the kind words and for sharing that story.

  10. 18

    It’s a distinct truism Sibyl that 99.9% of what we worry about never happens so all we are doing is shortening our life and increasing self-pressure. Worry = I’m not enough today, tomorrow, and every day ahead of my life. But that isn’t true either. We’ve got this far, survived as winners, so why can’t we do EVEN better in the future? Why not indeed? Worry is wonderful inside out!

    • 19

      So true what you said John. So much of what we worry about is just an illusion. If we can just focus on today and put all of our passion and energy into that, we really can set ourselves to move in the right direction and free ourselves from needless worries. Thanks so much for the comment and dropping by.

  11. 20

    Sibyl,

    What you said is so true. What is the point of worrying about things that you can’t control? If it hasn’t happened yet you can’t determine the outcome but what you can do is use today to put you in the best position to have the future you want. Great post!

    • 21

      So true Frank… why be bothered with things you can’t control when you can really handle those things Today in the best way and control what you get tomorrow. Thanks for the comment and the wisdom.

  12. 22

    I’d like to add:
    Every action you do is done today.
    Every project you start is started today.
    People willonly have fun today.
    Today is the only day we have.
    Tomorrow will be today tomorrow, so you can worry tomorrow ;D

    • 23

      Hey Alice. Sonds like we are totally on the same page :) It really is all about Today and living in the moment. Thanks for dropping by and thanks for the comment.

  13. 24

    You know, whenever I have a day where I just want to hit the snooze a little more or sleep in for a while, I think about how much more I can get done in that day. I also think that, the sooner I get those things done, the sooner I can relax and enjoy the simple little things we often take for granted.. Then I jump out of bed with great fervor and anticipation!

    The way we look at TODAY can shape our lives in so many ways. Opportunity does NOT knock just once.. But it sure helps to live in the moment. You never know what you can do until you just get to it, right?

    Lovin’ your blog, Sybil! I will Facebook, SU, and tweet this!! =oD

    • 25

      Yomar: Thanks so much for the comment and for sharing the post. I really appreciate it;) What you said is so true … sometimes you just have to get to it. I love what you shared about your mornings. I think that is a great routine. It is all about really understanding all the possibilities we have every single day and then making certain we take advantage of them. Thanks again for the comment and thanks for dropping by.

  14. 26
    jennifer bourke says:

    Live today better than 2morrow

  15. 28

    I really try to not worry about tomorrow, but I can’t help it. We are constantly worried about not being able to pay rent, about being broke. We are worried that we wont make our car payments, and everyday I struggle to think of a way to make money so we dont have to worry about money. If we dont make the $500 payments for the car, we wont have a car and my husband wont have work. Car payments and utilities are $850 a month, we are always so worried about not being able to pay them. We can’t just not worry today, because we have to limit our food and expenses to be able to pay our bills, so we are constantly worried about how much money to save and what to limit. Bills this months have already not been paid, so we are $360 behind. so $360, and next month $350, thats about $700 next month we have to pay, plus $500 for car. so next month our basic expenses will be $1200 for utilities and car. I am always worried about today, because I know my decisions today will determine my position later on. The only time I can relax is the day we get a pay check, because I know that I have an opportunity to pay everything off. please help, how can i just stop worrying? I really want us to be happy and not worry, but it is so hard. Do you have any advice?