“Your journey has molded you for the greater good. It was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.” Asha Tyson
I don’t know about you, but for me that is definitely a relief … everything that has happened to me was exactly what it needed to be.
Okay, cool. That works and it is a 100% better way to look at things than I used to.
Because honestly, when crap (or I mean challenges) used to come my way, it was extremely difficult for me to step back, accept what happened and know that there was any kind of a bigger picture.
In fact, it was just the opposite.
When an issue came my way, I would be bothered and upset. I would wonder “why me”? and do just about every other thing that people warn you not to do when things go “wrong“.
Isn’t it just so true though that how we view the challenges that come our way absolutely impacts the way we experience life?
… and the better we view the challenges, the better we are at managing whatever comes our way.
It’s why one person can see losing their job as a failure … and another person can see losing their job as an opportunity to break out of the status quo and do something they really are passionate about.
It’s why one person can really mess up, have things go terribly wrong and decide to quit … and another person can take a look at how they messed up, tell themselves they will never make that mistake again and be encouraged to keep pushing forward.
Even though we get to choose to see the things that happen to us in whatever light we like, we can still sometimes fall into the trap of seeing things from the wrong perspective.
Hey, we’re human. It’s an easy trap to fall into.
We can convince ourselves we are being “realistic” and that things really are as bad as we have framed them.
But, the majority of the time when we frame things negatively, our frames are wrong and we are looking at something that ultimately may be for our highest good … even if we can’t exactly see how.
And, that is why we have to always make sure we are doing our part and working to look at things in the right light.
It doesn’t mean that we have to love all the challenges and issues that come our way. It doesn’t mean that we have to only look at things through “rose colored glasses”.
The reality is that we aren’t going to understand everything and why it has happened. That is something we are not meant to do and is way beyond our job description.
Our job is just to know that every single thing that happens to us is exactly what we needed and to really believe in that truth even when we may dislike what has come our way.
Easier said than done?
Of course. But that really is one of the most important lessons we are supposed to learn and once we master it, the “heaviness” of life melts away.
what should you do?
1. Continually work at seeing things from the right perspective. It is definitely something you get better and better at, but you will have to keep pushing yourself to look at things differently until it becomes a habit.
2. Know that when you can’t explain “why” (and even when you can) there is always a bigger picture. There is always more going on than we may understand and knowing that can really help us step back and see things from a better perspective.
3. Realize it is always our choice to see things in the right light AND it is our job to do so. This is a responsibility that belongs to us. The sooner we understand that the sooner we will realize that this is something we are meant to practice and learn.