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11 Things You Really Want to Stop Doing Today

“If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down.” – Unknown

Have you ever heard of the concept of a “Stop Doing” list?

The Stop Doing List was created by Jim Collins and the goal is to create a list of the things you are no longer going to do because they drain your positive energy and provide very little, if any, benefits.

How cool is that? I really love that concept and the first list I created included all sorts of things that I was literally going to stop immediately doing.

    • No more going to events just because it was “politically correct” to be seen at them. If I didn’t really have a desire to go, I wasn’t going.
    • No more overcommitting myself and trying to do way too much during the day.
    • No more saying “yes”, when I really felt that the right answer was “no”.

I can’t even begin to tell you how valuable it was for me to stop doing the things that were on the list. So, I thought I would take it one step further and create another list of things that I should stop doing.

This time I decided to focus on the things that were a little more intangible, but definitely were a huge energy drain and provided absolutely no benefits.

You know those things that you know you shouldn’t do, but for some reason you aren’t paying enough attention and you mindlessly allow them to continue?

Well, Today is the day to put a stop to all of them.

It really is so true that if you want to take advantage of all the possibilities of today you can’t let things you can “stop doing” weigh you down. It’s time to fly.

11 Things to stop doing TODAY:

  1. Stop focusing on obstacles … focus on possibilities.
  2. Stop getting frustrated when things don’t easily come together … be patient and realize there is so much value in what you learn along the way.
  3. Stop worrying that people will think you are just a dreamer … dream bigger and bigger; you will be amazed at what comes true.
  4. Stop thinking you have to run through the day in order to get everything done … understand there is so much value in turning off the autopilot and thoughtfully moving through the day.
  5. Stop resenting the things that went wrong … just figure out what you were supposed to learn so you don’t need to get the same lesson again.
  6. Stop thinking you have to know exactly what you are doing before trying … realize this is what it means to do things out of your comfort zone.
  7. Stop believing you have to always be “thinking” or “doing” … because oftentimes the best thing “to do” is be silent and slow down.
  8. Stop worrying about what could possibly happen … and realize you are so much better off to believe that things will work out just as you want (even if you end up wrong in the end).
  9. Stop thinking you have to always take quantum leaps … and realize the baby steps are just as impressive and important.
  10. Stop being afraid to fail … and know that oftentimes the only path to success is through failure.
  11. Stop thinking you are crazy for being bold and taking a chance … because that is usually when you learn the most and life gets really, really good.
Live Today Better than Yesterday.

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Comments

  1. 1

    Sibyl,
    I think we find real freedom when we realized we have the power to say no. I was such a people pleaser when I was younger. I could not say no.
    Learning that I could say “no,” and see that the people I said no to still loved me was a revelation. My real growth began when I mastered the art of no longer doing things I didn’t want to do.

  2. 2

    Fabulous list!
    Since moving to Hawaii I have stopped saying yes because it is politically correct. I say no to a lot because I’d rather be enjoying my home, my family, my dogs, the ocean. I don’t want to try and fit too much stuff in one day and ruin it all with overwhelm and busy-ness.

    Even on Christmas this year I made choices I wouldn’t have before. We were invited to a dinner. I knew that I would be sitting there wishing we were in our own lovely home, surrounded by our own conversation and warmth. We wanted to watch the sunset from our own lanai. I would have gone with the invitation a few years back. I’m so glad I don’t feel that way anymore. :)

    I’m glad I get to read your insights. Mahalo.

  3. 3

    And stop thinking that you are too old / too young to do something!

    Why would anyone want to grow up anyway!? Better to always remain child-like:-)

    Great list, Sibyl – one I’ll be applying a lot in my life.

  4. 8

    Hi Sibylk.
    Stop doing…….”Lists” is even better. Start visioning, start planning, create your Big Picture & you will only be “doing” what is right for you.
    be good to yourself
    David

  5. 9

    Sibyl,
    How about this one…
    Stop judging, comparing, and complaining and start accepting, admiring, and laughing.

  6. 12

    Sybil..
    I love your line stop“thinking” or “doing” … because oftentimes the best thing “to do” is be silent and slow down.

    I’ve worked so many years on that BUT still slip back into thinking that I have to do, produce, etc. I may have a passing moment when I feel this way….and there may be another time where I go for a 24 hour period in a state of ‘I gotta do’.

    Your post is a nurturing guideline that can help all of us remember what’s important in life. Thanks for a good one. Fran

  7. 15

    Hi Sibyl,

    Love your list. You’ve reminded us to take back control of our lives.

  8. 17

    im a huge fan share your website and articles keep up the good work

    • 18

      Thanks so much Jackee:) I am so glad that you like the site and continue to drop by. I appreciate the feedback. Thanks for taking the time to let me know.

  9. 19

    “dream bigger and bigger”

    I was just talking about this on the drive home w/ my daughter (who is doing an amazing job of learning to drive btw!).

    I was telling her how I was wondering what would happen if I embraced bigger dreams for my blog and my coaching business. How for January (my first month w/ my new blog) I set myself the goal of 900 visitors and, I kid you not, at the end of the day on Jan. 31 I had exactly 900 visitors!

    So this month I want to work on inviting and embracing bigger dreams <3

    • 20

      I love, love, love that story. That really is what it is all about. Dreaming and knowing that you can get there. I have really been amazed how much that really does and works:) Thanks so much for the comment and for dropping by. Congrats also on the 900 visitors during the first month. That really is a big deal:) I was soooooo no where close to that during my first month:)

  10. 21

    Hi Sibyl,

    I’ve enjoyed your post. I especially like point 3. It always make me sad when some people don’t understand you and think that I’m a dreamer and I constantly have to prove them something.

    Thanks for this post!

    • 22

      Thanks Roman for the comment and for dropping me by. I so agree with you:) It’s all about just being who you are and following your truth. Thanks again for dropping by.

  11. 23

    “2.Stop getting frustrated when things don’t easily come together … be patient and realize there is so much value in what you learn along the way.”

    Yesterday was frustrating in that I was trying to complete a task at work that I haven’t been performing well at. In fact, I got “not fully completing” on my year end performance review over it. It’s a project I do every week, and I’ve proctrastinated with it every week. Then I read your post on procrastination and printed out the four steps. And I’ve been following those four steps and that’s helped. But now I’m dealing with the fact I have so many interruptions during the day when I’m trying to do this project. And then I’m frustrated because I feel I’m still not completing the project in the fashion my boss’s do.

    So, now, after reading this post this morning, I see that I’ve been missing the point of this. I’m no longer frustrated, although 10 minutes ago I was. I woke up frustrated about the project, and especially after I saw my boss’s edits when I got up and logged into the office email.

    Rather, I’m grateful my boss took the time to send me the edits and has shown me the way. I’m grateful for your post on procrastination, because I’ve learned that lesson now. And now, I’m learning the value of patience. That’s a tough one for me, but this journey has been so enlightening and now I can go to work in a calmer state and I feel more patient and less hard on myself. Next week’s submission is going to be that much better.

    Thank you, Sibyl.

    • 24

      Jenn: Thank you so much for the comment and for the story of how it played out for you in the real world. It is so helpful for us all to hear these stories and allows us to think of our own personal experiences and what we learned. I am so glad that the posts helped you. Isn’t it funny that at first glance it would appear that it was all just about a performance review, but really what is going on is an opportunity to strengthen skills and learn lessons. I have always loved that and it soooooo happens to me too all the time:) Thanks again for dropping by and thanks for the amazing comment.

  12. 25

    You are absolutely right…… Reading this post reminding my strengths….. thank you Sibyl……..

  13. 27

    I love this! What a great play on words… a stop doing list! These are all things I try to do on a regular basis. I shared with my facebook readers and got a great response! Thanks Sibyl!

  14. 29

    Firstly, let me say what a beautiful website this is! It even feels tranquil! :)

    This post really made me think, I could feel myself relaxing as I read it, as I felt you had given me ‘permission!’ As a classic over achiever I have always been frustrated by my tortoise friends who just go with the flow and do twice as much as me, very annoying! I especially like point 6, about not needing to ‘know it all’ before starting, for an info addict like me (which can get overwhelming) that is very good advice! I may even listen to it for once…! :D

    A very valuable site, especially in our busy busy world, thank you!

    Shell :)

    • 30

      Hey Shell: Thank you so much for the comment and for dropping by. I am so glad that you think the website is “tranquil”. That’s definitely what I was going for:) So glad you liked the article and that you found the information valuable. Thanks again for dropping by.

  15. 31

    The quote struck me- I need to unweigh! There are indeed possibilities. I feel that in spite of the challenges, there are new solutions and a brighter day. I am excited to face these challenges!

    • 32

      Nice Rob:) That’s what it is all about. Realizing there is more and then going after it. So glad you liked the article. Thanks for stopping by and thanks for the comment.

  16. 33

    Love your 11 steps, many of them resemble to tao wisdom, very nice article.

  17. 35

    Thanks Sibyl,

    As a high school student i tend to waste my times on going out with friends and waste most of my days playing games and stuff. I found that all i’ve been doing seems to drown me to a bad future.I kept being anxious of what i’m gonna be after i graduate.So right now i’m thinking about sorting things out and have a better life. Wish me luck!

    • 36

      Hey Robby:) Thanks for the message and taking the time to comment. I think that you’re definitely entitled to some enjoyment time. You’re in high school so you should definitely be enjoying your time with your friends and having some fun. Of course, keeping things in balance though is always important:) That’s what I am always trying to do too. What you’re doing in terms of reflecting on your life and what you want for it is important. I am a big believer in rethinking what’s possible and making sure you are using your days to work toward that. Just continue to ask yourself questions and once you get the answers of what you really want, make sure you are taking a step everyday in that direction. Thanks again for dropping by and taking the time to comment.

  18. 37
    Debbie Dennison says:

    I loved when I learned how so many who are very famous and successful today, struggled with many rejections before, but they stuck with their dream, and succeeded in the. I love the idea and will make it my goal, to live life with a more positive attitude. Don’t tear into other’s because they are having a negative day. You have no idea why, perhaps they’ve received bad news of a loved one, or divorce, or illness or economic problems. Rather than contribute to their already obvious bad day, offer a sincere compliment about something (their hair, clothing, efficiency), and give them a smile. When other’s have brought you down, physically turn yourself around to remind yourself your turning around your attitude, your view of this day or situation. No matter how bad we think we have it, there are many who have it much worse. Count our blessings daily, appreciate we have the opportunity for the trials we’re working through and the option to make those trials into strengths.

    • 38

      Debbie: Thank you so much for the thoughtful comment. I loved everything you shared and you are so right that we’ve got to always be thoughtful and understand that everyone has a story. Thank you so much for the comment and for dropping by.

  19. 39

    I needed to remember Nº9, thank you Sibyl. What I think is key is never stop growing, in this sense, this remembers me of taking baby steps because (when they are done in the right direction) they are the building blocks of your foundation in life and business and everything

    • 40

      So true John — and I am a HUGE fan of just taking continual babysteps in the right direction. I really believe that always gets you exactly where you want to be. Thanks so much for the comment and for dropping by.

  20. 41
    Lewiz Hababy says:

    I think I am going to do so from this moment on. Insightful though.

  21. 42

    As sure as Positive “WINS” over Negative; even in the dark, these Positive characteristics are indeed a trustworthy source of behavioral tactics to practice. I would resolve to say, “while these noted approaches to building a positive mindset are effective: every person has strengths and weaknesses”. To be the very best (you) that you can be, apply these principles to any area of weaknesses within your daily routines and see a organic change within your mental, physical and spiritual growth. The body is as strong as the mind is free.

    Sincerely,

    Torrence V. Brown
    Founder: Truth World Order/Black Diamond Brilliance L.L.C.

  22. 43

    I also learned late in life the power of saying no to things that made me uncomfortable or if I just didn’t feel like it. I sometimes wish that I leaned that lesson years ago. The list of 11 is pretty good and words to live by. I will make sure my husband gets a copy of this!

    • 44

      I think you’re so right Gayle. It’s important to get comfortable enough with your own truth and to know when you can and should say “No”. That’s definitely something I learned as well:) Thanks for dropping by and taking the time to comment.

  23. 45

    I am going to copy this list and post it on my desk. This is exactly what I need to stay focused. This list is great for motivation. Thanks

  24. 46

    Hi Sybil,dis my first time on ur blog n im already loving u.Ur posts r very insightful,an eye opener indeed as far as personal life n dev’t is concerned.