“Remind yourself that it’s okay not to be perfect”.
Do you ever feel that you could do certain things better? Are you the perfect mom? the perfect mate? the perfect worker? the perfect friend? Are you perfectly working toward your goals? Are you living up to your personal definition of “perfect”?
I make mistakes. I forget to do things. I don’t do every single thing that I probably should and I
probably definitely do some things I shouldn’t.
But, you know what I finally figured out (and it lifted an enormous weight off me), it’s all okay because my heart is in the right place. Even though I don’t always get it right, I am sincerely and genuinely trying. I aim to Live Today Better than Yesterday.
And, it’s okay if I mess up from time to time.
I can accidentally send out an e-mail template in a foreign language (that I don’t even speak) to my entire list of subscribers, apologize and be forgiven (I am sure many of you remember that one).
I can be tired and not feel like working — decide to take the day off, be completely unproductive and just relax.
I can fail miserably at something and still move forward by figuring out what not to do the next time.
I can even slip us and say something to someone that I wished I hadn’t, sincerely apologize and be forgiven.
no more trying to “be perfect” necessary
One of the best things I ever did was released myself from the expectation and artificial definition of “perfection” that I created and was never living up to. And, this is something you really should consider doing as well because it’s liberating and prevents you from being too hard on yourself.
Trying to live up to an artificial definition of “perfection” is just too easy to fail at and creates endless frustration and guilt.
We end up holding ourselves to too high of standards. We beat ourselves up for making mistakes and feel guilty because of the littlest things. We refuse to gives ourselves the benefit of the doubt and accept that we are just learning through living. Ultimately, we end up causing damage and harm by being our own worse critic.
So, that’s why we should be done with that “perfect” thing.
As long as we are sincerely trying to do the right thing and are learning and making adjustments when we need to, we should consider that a job well done.
what “being perfect” really means
When it comes right down to it, many of us (myself definitely included) have had a bad definition of “perfect”.
Being “perfect” doesn’t mean that you don’t have imperfections and things you can still work on. It doesn’t mean that you have to always be “on” and productive 100% of the time.
It’s just about getting comfortable in your own skin — allowing yourself to be exactly who you are, doing what feels right, appreciating all the things you do very well, accepting and working on those things you could do better.
That’s what “being perfect” is really all about.
the possibility of today:
1. No more guilt trips. Give yourself a break. Don’t let the negative committee in your mind beat you up for things you shouldn’t have done or could’ve done better. It happened. It’s over and beating yourself up is not going to help anything. In fact, it will only keep the re-runs of what happened running through your mind and weigh you down more.
2. Fix what needs to be fixed. If there really is something you need to change, then today is the day to start changing it. What can you do differently and better the next time? What do you need to adjust? Figure out what you need to do and start taking steps today. Don’t wait.
3. Give yourself credit for what’s working. We are all so good at noticing our mistakes, but often times we aren’t acknowledging all the things that are working and what we are doing well. Remind yourself every single day of all the things you have already accomplished and are doing well. The small things definitely count. Don’t overlook anything.
Live Today Better than Yesterday.
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