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A Simple Way You Can Break Yourself Free From Any Infinite Loops

“When you want something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.” Unknown

Have you ever felt like you have gotten caught up in an Infinite Loop in any area of your life? You know those times when you feel like you have been working really hard and trying to get things to fall in place – but, for whatever reason, you are stuck and not getting all the results you want.

You may have even had flashes of progress and thought you finally broke free from the Infinite Loop, but then something happened that set you back again or you realized that you hadn’t made any real progress and you are basically in the same place you started.

I have definitely experienced my fair share of Infinite Loops. I was a master at complaining about situations and why things weren’t working. I was even really good at being able to describe exactly where I wanted to be.

But, I wasn’t really doing anything different that was going to break me out of the Infinite Loop and get me different results. In fact, for the most part, I was essentially doing the same things, but expecting somehow or someway things would eventually fall into place.

I was finding excuse after excuse as to why I was stuck and they all made perfect sense to me. But, honestly, they were just excuses that justified me repeating the same pattern and not doing all the things I could have to get me to the new place I wanted to be. You know that good old quote -

“You can have results or excuses, but not both.” It was literally playing out in my life.

The Potential Infinite Loops:

Infinite Loops literally make you feel like you are on a “Human Hamster Wheel” – you are running and running, but not really getting ahead.

1. Money issues – continually feeling “stretched”

2. Not really making the progress you want

3. Relationship after relationship with the wrong person

4. Weight issues

5. Continually choosing to do things you know you shouldn’t

6. Feeling Uninspired 

7. Hating your job

8. Having the same unresolved issues in your relationship

9. Consistently feeling upset or depressed

10. Staying angry at someone 

The list goes on and on. 

Well, you know what I decided? I am so done with Infinite Loops in all areas of my life and of course I want you to join me. It’s time to break through each and every one of them and that means we have to be on the lookout for them because often times they aren’t easy to see.

They can exist under our radar – especially if they don’t make us uncomfortable enough or if we have somehow convinced ourselves that is “just how life goes”. But, nothing could be farther from the truth.

We are meant to break out of every single one of these Infinite Loops. Life is not about working really hard and trying to do what you are supposed to day after day just to end up disappointed and not have any results. Those aren’t the endings we are looking for and those also aren’t the endings we are meant to have.

The key is to decide you are no longer going to tolerate being trapped in any Infinite Loops and get serious about changing things up so you can free yourself.

The Possibility of Today:

1. Recognize the areas of your life where you may be caught up in an Infinite Loop.

2. Decide you aren’t going to stay where you are.

3. Choose to do things differently. You’ve got to change things up and literally do things differently than you have been. It’s time to get creative and find the way out. Search for solutions. Work with new people. Find information that will help you – (send me an e-mail and I will put you on the early list for the new course I am creating to break free from Infinite Loops). Ask yourself: What can I do differently today? And, then go and do it. Yes, it’s important to say that you want things to change but, the real question is what are you actually doing to make that happen? Today is the day to start.

Live Today Better than Yesterday.

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  1. 1
    staying alive says:

    This article helped wake the ‘hidden dragon’ in me. For the most part of my life, I’ve been trapped in these loops, and it’s not easy to get away and change what you have gotten used to. But, yes, we do have a choice, either to break away or stay. Thank you for writing inspiring articles that remind me of wonderful possibilities that life offers.

    • 2

      Thank you for taking the time to comment. I think the way you described it is so true – the “hidden dragon”. That really does describe it perfectly. Here’s to breaking free once and for all:)

  2. 3

    Hi Sibyl, I know exactly what you mean. I am in that situation at present and seem to be getting nowhere. Sometimes it’s really difficult to make progress and move in the right direction even when you’re clear on what that direction might be. Now I’ve probably confused you totally. I have so many things running around in my head and so much happening in my life, it becomes hard to make any progress because you get to the stage you really don’t know what to do. So hard when you have so many people depending on you.
    Anyway, what you just wrote hit a chord with me Sibyl.

    • 4

      Glynne: I know exactly what you are saying. These Infinite Loops are something aren’t they? :) I think the best thing to do is decide you are going to break out and then put together a real plan. What can you literally do differently today? Changing things up and attacking the issue with a plan has always helped me break free:) Thanks so much for the comment.

  3. 5

    Thanks i really needed that just have to figure out how to handle things different.

  4. 9

    Wonderful words of wisdom and truth! Thank You for being a beacon of light!
    Spirit Through Music,

  5. 11

    Oh my I came accross this by chance and it was so meant for me!! Please sign me up for the course also!

  6. 13

    this article is something great for me.I will start right now to put these precious lesson in practice

  7. 15
    babar ali syed says:

    I am in problem with my relations and I am fully depressed.but after reading the article I start feeling new ray of hope in my life.

    • 16

      :) So glad. It is all about seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and walking toward it. Glad the article helped and thanks for taking the time to let me know.

  8. 17
    cindy fargher says:

    Dear Sybil, I found this article very interesting and true. I have a few loops in my life that I would like to nip in the bud. I am going to print out this article and begin to work on these things. Thanks for your website and the positive information you bring to me each day.

  9. 19

    What a wonderful article Sybyl. I enjoy all of your articles and I’m hoping to put on the list for the new course. I’m fed up living beneath what God intended me to live. I was on my way to living the good life until I allowed life circumstances pull me back into the Loop, but with all the support that I’m receiving; I know I’m on my way out from the Infinite Loops. Thank God for you helping others to change their lives. I intend to give back what was given to me to relive my life the way it’s suppose to be lived.

  10. 20
    mary ellen says:

    HI Sibyl,

    I wrote to you several months ago when I was very upset and feeling trapped with my job. In March my position was eliminated and I was laid off. These last 2 months have been like going through detox and I have gotten to feel so much better, finally. I am wanting to have my own business as a Legal Nurse Consultant. I’ve read many of your postings. I am trying to find the optimism for myself daily- some days I feel very positive and hopeful that I will succeed. Other days I succumb to worry and fear. There is so much negativity out there, and I find myself so susceptible to it. I know how good a job I do and would do in this role, but not getting positive reinforcement becomes very unsettling. How do I get the positive reinforcement I need to keep my attitude positive fo my goal?

    • 21

      Mary Ellen – I am so happy that you have worked through things and are finally feeling better. That’s such an important part of the process and I am glad you have been taking consistent step forward:) In terms of feeling good everyday and optimistic, it is not uncommon to have what I call “easy” good days where things are flowing and you just feel great … and then other good days that you have to kind of work through so they can be good. The most important thing is to recognize how you’re feeling when you wake up. Rate your mood and feeling on a scale of 1 to 10 where 10 is the highest. If you’re feeling at least an 8 or higher, I would recommend going through a good morning routine. Reading some inspirational reading, giving yourself some “me time” (yoga, walking, meditation or anything else you enjoy). After you complete your morning routine (30 min. – 1 hr.) then you start the day. Now, on those days where you are feeling less than 8, it’s possible to get your mood to where it needs to be to get through the day and it still be a good day. So, on those days where you wake up at let’s say a 5, you are going to want to extend your morning routine even longer if possible. Also, I would recommend taking another 1/2 hour – 1 hour at lunch to boost your mood. During both your extended morning routine and your afternoon boost, you should read inspirational information and take “Me time”. The difference on those days where you don’t wake up at an 8 or higher is that you give yourself even more boost time:) Does that make sense. What really worked for me is realizing I had control over how I felt and I could boost my mood with my morning routine and my afternoon break. Hope that helps. Let me know how it works:)

  11. 22
    ReginaGuerra says:

    Hi Sibyl,

    Hi Sibyl I’m on a very deep infinite loop.
    How can I forgive people who have used my 9 year old against me ? ( My x husband and his mother)So that she would choose to live with he father and he didn’t have to play child support. They tried with all evilness they have to take my daughter way from me for no other reason but get out of paying 54 dollars weekly child support. And they used my daughter to get revenge on me for having had the guts to divorced an abusive, aggressive, dominant man. He and his mother have done a fine job buying her pets and fancy electronics and promises of having a big land where my daughter can have horses and any pet she wants. She tells me she doesn’t want to live with me no more, she lived with me the first 9 years of her life and now she is very happy living with her father…that I’m weak, i lost it and it sucks for me. I forgive my daughter, I look into her beautiful face and I have nothing but love for her, I know that the hateful things that she tells me is out of confusion and being brain washed.
    But I can’t forgive this man and his mother… but it is destroying me, I can’t get any employment, all I do is cry Im so fearful that my daughter will forget me.. i dream about going back to Sarasota, Fl. that means not even seeing my daughter for a long time maybe never…I need to get out of this,,, but how?

  12. 23

    Hi Sibyl, this being going on for 2 years.