Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck. Dalai Lama
Are you a planner? Are you always thinking through things, planning, creating schedules in your mind and figuring out how you want things to happen?
I am such a planner. I have a plan for just about everything in my life. I plan my days and all the things I want to accomplish. I plan my goals and what needs to happen so they can come together. I plan weekends, vacations, parties, dinners – you name it, I plan it. I just have always been a big believer that if you don’t know where you’re going … it makes it so much harder to get there.
BUT … (and this is a big BUT)
One of the most important things I had to learn was how to “let go” a little of all my plans and especially my expectations about how things needed to happen. I had to realize nothing was actually going “wrong” just because it wasn’t going as I planned.
Teaching myself to “let go” a little has removed so much unnecessary disappointment and even angst from my life. In the past, when things went “off schedule” or not as planned, I would get all worked up and bothered. My mood would take an instant nosedive and I would snap into “how can I fix this as quickly as possible mode”.
What I finally realized is that I needed less planning … and more trusting of whatever was unfolding.
Don’t get me wrong, plans are important and it’s good to figure out what you want. It just that what’s even more important is to know when to “let go” and trust the way things are happening … no matter what it is.
If you’ve been working hard to accomplish something and things don’t come together as planned. “Let it go” and keep pushing forward. Something is going on “behind the scenes” that you may not be able to see but it is actually what you need to get to where you want to be.
If your friend is running late and you miss your dinner reservation time … It’s okay – “let it go”. Maybe you’ll end up at another restaurant and meet someone you wouldn’t have met at the first place.
If you’ve been waiting for an important meeting and the other person cancels. “Let it go” and trust that it wasn’t meant to be that day. Either the meeting will get rescheduled or there is a better meeting or something else coming your way.
Life Has A Way of Unfolding Perfectly
What I have finally realized is that when we are thoughtful, do things genuinely and we have the right intentions, things have a way of unfolding perfectly … but they don’t necessarily unfold according to our specific plans.
So, by all means, if you’re a planner, keep making plans. I know I am still making mine. You always have to lean in the direction you want to go. But, also just be willing to “let go” and trust … and things even bigger and better than you’ve planned will happen. It’s like one my favorite quotes explains –
“Remember that sometimes not getting what you ‘want’ ends up being a wonderful stroke of luck.” Dalai Lama
The Possibility of Today: Letting Go A Little & Trusting The Way Things Unfold
1. Realize “Letting Go” Is Something You Must Practice. It really does get easier to trust and get better at “letting go”, but I realized that in order for that to happen, you’ve got to practice. That means you use your day and the experiences that arise throughout the day to practice. Every time something goes “wrong”, remind yourself that you’re using the situation to practice “letting go” and trusting.
2. Focus Your Mind On Why It Really is Okay. When things go wrong, our minds may start focusing on what’s not happening and all the reasons we think that is an issue. It’s okay if your mind does this … you’re human. But, you’ve got to correct the thought. Let your mind have that thought and then replace it with the truth – somehow- someway whatever is happening is unfolding the way it’s meant to and you’ve got to trust that.
3. Start Thinking About The Possible Good Things “Behind the Scene”. It helps you to trust whatever is happening if you start thinking about some potential good that could come from things not going as planned. Push yourself to come up with some very good reasons things didn’t happen as you wanted. Just focusing your mind on these potential good things going on “behind the scene” can help get your good energy flowing again and help you take another step toward trusting whatever went “wrong.”
Live Today Better than Yesterday.
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