Remember happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone or anything else that much power over your life. Mandy Hale
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to let what other people say and do affect your happiness and peace of mind? Or, what about the challenges or issues that come your way … have you noticed when things aren’t going smoothly it can really throw you off?
I lived so many years letting the people around me and certain situations affect how I felt.
The people who continually pushed my buttons
The times when I was struggling with the “stuff of life”
The people who disappointed me and did things they shouldn’t have
The times when it felt like things were never going to fall into place
Don’t you agree it is somewhat of an easy trap to fall into? I know that I even would put conditions on my happiness and peace of mind. I can remember thinking so many times “I am not going to be completely happy until …” or “I will completely be at peace when …”
But, one day I just couldn’t take it anymore. I realized if I continued to let the way I felt be dependent on external factors, I was going to continually not have enough “ups” and too many unnecessary “downs”.
Because, there are a couple of things we know for sure …
(1) There are going to be challenges and situations we need to deal with AND
(2) We most likely will come into contact with people, friends and even family members who say and do things they really shouldn’t.
That’s just the reality of life. But, we don’t have to let any of those things have more control over how we feel than they should.
One thing I finally realized (that also definitely falls on my top 10 life lessons list) … is that the possibility we have every single day is to stay close to our center and maintain a great peace of mind no matter what is happening around us. However, what I also realized, was that usually means we have to choose to move through our days very differently than we have been.
It actually brings to mind a great quote –
“Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace.” ~Joan Borysenko
Every moment we can choose to shine our Light on any challenging situations or people around us. But, we must make that choice time and time again until it starts naturally happening. So, what that means is today (and every today that follows) we commit to protecting our peace of mind and how we feel. And, the moment we recognize we are getting upset about anything … we gently remind ourselves of that great quote, ” I could choose peace instead of this.” (CIM)
The Possibility of Today: Choosing to Protect Your Peace of Mind and Happiness
1. Remind Yourself Every Morning and As You Move Through The Day. The conscious choice we must make every single day is to make our mindset a top priority and realize it’s not worth it to let anyone or anything interfere with it.
2. Unwind When Necessary. We’re human and so we may have an initial reaction when people do things they shouldn’t or a challenging situation happens. However, its important to not let ourselves get more and more worked up. Choose to not express any negative reactions and instead let them just rise to the surface. Don’t feed them with more negative energy. Give them time to evaporate. Push yourself to see the bigger picture or look at things from a different perspective. This practice is something we get better at and eventually you will be able to catch yourself before you even have an initial negative reaction. Also, if you need to unwind some more you can do other things you enjoy and turn your complete attention to those – walking, reading, meditating, listening to music or spending time with your favorite people.
Live Today Better Than Yesterday.
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