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How You Can Avoid Letting Anyone or Anything Ever Bother You Again

Remember happiness is an inside job. Don’t assign anyone or anything else that much power over your life. Mandy Hale

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to let what other people say and do affect your happiness and peace of mind? Or, what about the challenges or issues that come your way … have you noticed when things aren’t going smoothly it can really throw you off?

I lived so many years letting the people around me and certain situations affect how I felt.

The people who continually pushed my buttons 

The times when I was struggling with the “stuff of life”

The people who disappointed me and did things they shouldn’t have

The times when it felt like things were never going to fall into place

Don’t you agree it is somewhat of an easy trap to fall into? I know that I even would put conditions on my happiness and peace of mind. I can remember thinking so many times “I am not going to be completely happy until …” or “I will completely be at peace when …”

But, one day I just couldn’t take it anymore. I realized if I continued to let the way I felt be dependent on external factors, I was going to continually not have enough “ups” and too many unnecessary “downs”.

Because, there are a couple of things we know for sure …

(1) There are going to be challenges and situations we need to deal with AND
(2) We most likely will come into contact with people, friends and even family members who say and do things they really shouldn’t.

That’s just the reality of life. But, we don’t have to let any of those things have more control over how we feel than they should.

One thing I finally realized (that also definitely falls on my top 10 life lessons list) … is that the possibility we have every single day is to stay close to our center and maintain a great peace of mind no matter what is happening around us. However, what I also realized, was that usually means we have to choose to move through our days very differently than we have been.

It actually brings to mind a great quote –

“Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace.” ~Joan Borysenko

Every moment we can choose to shine our Light on any challenging situations or people around us. But, we must make that choice time and time again until it starts naturally happening. So, what that means is today (and every today that follows) we commit to protecting our peace of mind and how we feel. And, the moment we recognize we are getting upset about anything … we gently remind ourselves of that great quote, ” I could choose peace instead of this.” (CIM)

The Possibility of Today: Choosing to Protect Your Peace of Mind and Happiness

1. Remind Yourself Every Morning and As You Move Through The Day.  The conscious choice we must make every single day is to make our mindset a top priority and realize it’s not worth it to let anyone or anything interfere with it.

2. Unwind When Necessary. We’re human and so we may have an initial reaction when people do things they shouldn’t or a challenging situation happens. However, its important to not let ourselves get more and more worked up. Choose to not express any negative reactions and instead let them just rise to the surface. Don’t feed them with more negative energy. Give them time to evaporate. Push yourself to see the bigger picture or look at things from a different perspective. This practice is something we get better at and eventually you will be able to catch yourself before you even have an initial negative reaction. Also, if you need to unwind some more you can do other things you enjoy and turn your complete attention to those – walking, reading, meditating, listening to music or spending time with your favorite people.

Live Today Better Than Yesterday.

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  1. 1
    Jevonnah Ellison says:

    Excellent, refreshing article! Thank you for sharing.

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    Greeting: I really enjoy your words of empowerment. a couple of these I am aware of and practice deliberately each day. It’s always good to have a reminder. Thank you!

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    I’m learning to control my thoughts through Buddhist meditation and concentrating on Jesus and the Bible. Seems like an odd combination but they are parallel roads leading to peace & contentment. If I can focus my mind on my Jesus and Buddha natures I can remain calm in the throes of chaos.

    Knew that I was in the right place from the moment I walked through the door. One of the teachers spoke a word over me that could have only come from God. This is the beginning of understanding the many spiritual events in my life. I have not left Christianity but I believe I was led to this type of Buddhist thought and teachings as a compliment to my Christian faith. I must study to show myself approved and to grasp the teachings. Amazing!

    Attended a Guided Meditation at: Shinnyo
    Shinnyo Meditation Center
    19 West 36th Street,
    New York, NY 10018

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    I totally agree with you. Recently I’ve really been focusing on being aware of how I feel and external forces that may swing me out wack. Like you said, the key is to be aware of your feelings. As soon as I feel a shift, I remind myself that I control my emotions and my emotions don’t control me. Since I’m a control freak it works pretty well because I never like feeling that anyone or anything controls my life. LOL

    Another trick I use is to start distract myself by focusing on something that makes me happy. So I may replay good events that may have happened during the day or past. And if that doesn’t work I’ll pull out my phone to look at pictures of my kids, vacations, checks I’ve received from clients, etc. Or I may just play one of my personal development audios.

    The key is to consistently train yourself to be aware of your emotions and you’re more likely able to control them. So this article was a nice reminder! Keep them coming!


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      Eddy – Thanks for your comment and dropping by. I totally agree with what you shared and as you mentioned, the key is to be aware of when your mind has taken a little bit of a detour and needs to be gently calmed down:) Thanks again for dropping by.

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    I have struggled with it in the past though now with practicing yoga & Qigong I have let things that bother me go. Another practice is I live life on my terms not on others idea of what, how & when I should do it something.

    • 8

      I love all of the practices you shared Vinita. I am not familiar with Qigong … I’ll have to do some research on it. I am sure it’s great though. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and comment here.

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    marjorie gettys says:

    Thanks for sharing gives me a total new perspective, I’m a work in progress and this article enlighten me more than you know. Be blessed!

    • 10

      A work in progress … me too:) I think that’s a great thing. Nothing better than continually moving forward and making progress:) Thanks for dropping by Marjorie. xoxo

  7. 11

    I am new to your page… just want to let your know that you are refreshing my day… love to read you.
    Today was a first… I will be following you… Namaste…

  8. 13

    Thanks for these positive reminders, it really enlightens my mind & starts my day off on right foot! Keep it up! THANK S again! Smile!

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    Cher Lanaux says:

    Enjoyed the article. When I remember to be a witness or an observer of my feelings, I arrive at a peaceful place more easily… Thx ;-)