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5 Things You Want To Stop Doing To Yourself Today

My goal is not to be better than anyone else, but simply to be better than I used to be. Wayne Dyer

Wouldn’t you say it is much easier to know what you should do than it is to actually do it? We know we should stop worrying, forgive people, look at challenges from the right perspective, break bad habits, believe in ourselves, overshadow our fears with faith … and so many other things that deep down we just know are right for us.

The problem I had was that although I knew exactly what I should have been doing, there were times (and plenty of them) when I wasn’t doing what I knew.

I was holding grudges and letting people push my buttons. I was complaining and getting frustrated at things I should have been “letting go”. I had doubts. I was letting my worries about tomorrow pull my attention away from Today and the moment in front of me.

But, then I realized I could choose to do it all differently.

The reality is that often times the things we know don’t automatically flow into our actions, our thoughts and how we choose to handle situations. But, we can use each day to practice and it is by all means one of those times where practice makes perfect. Eventually, we are able to better resolve situations, help soften tense interactions, and we chip away at the fears, doubts and anything else that may have been weighing us down and distorting our view.

And then one day, we look up and realize we’re naturally doing it. All the practice pays off and we become firmly settled into who we really are so that all we know is shaping everything we think, say and do.

So, how do we practice moving through the day doing what we know?

Every morning we remind ourselves that we are going to bring our highest and best self to every thought, interaction and experience. Then, we thoughtfully move through the day practicing doing just that. At the end of the day, we do a little accountability check… Did I follow through? Did I bring my highest and best self to that situation at work or to that conversation with my significant other? Did I shine my Light on my worries and doubts?

Of course there is no need to beat yourself up or feel guilty if you know you could have handled a situation better. Just be aware and decide you will handle it differently the next time. With time and practice it gets easier and easier.

Here’s a list of 5 things I’ve focused on. Perhaps some (or all of them) are things you’re interested in practicing too.

5 Things You Want To Stop Doing

1. Stop holding onto things you know you’re meant to let go of. It’s an easy trap to fall into, but it’s also a trap we’re meant to get out of. A lot of times it’s a process and each day you have to push yourself to “let go” a little more. One thing you can do is remind yourself that there are times you’re meant to let go of certain things so better things can come your way.

Some things

2. Stop trying to control things that you’re not meant to control. It will just frustrate you endlessly. Every time you realize that you’re trying to control something that is beyond your control – (1) Stop (2) Take 3 deep breaths (3) Remind yourself of this great quote by Dennis Waitley – “Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable.”


 3. Stop worrying and feeding your fears and doubts. There’s no point in working yourself up and worrying. And, like one of my favorite quotes by William James explains …“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”  Anytime fears or doubts surface, shine your Light of Truth and remind yourself that everything will unfold just as you need it to. It’s the way the process works and the more this Truth settles in, the quicker the fears melt away.


4. Stop regretting what happened and start loving your new beginning. Focus on the day in front of you and living each moment in the best way you can. Continually appreciate and remind yourself of all the great things you have in your life today.


5. Stop forgetting what you’re capable of. Every so often remind yourself of who you really are – how strong you are and what you’re truly capable of. Take time to reflect on this and really feel the power of this Truth. Keep boosting yourself with this feeling and Truth throughout the day because it can have a tendency to fade, especially if challenges arise. However, if you’re continually staying close to your center as you move through the day, it’s impossible for anyone or anything to throw you off.


Live Today Better Than Yesterday.

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  1. 1

    thank you

  2. 2

    Essential article , thank you!

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    Cyndy Mellgren says:

    Thank you for sharing Dr Dwyer’s great things to do
    I so enjoy your messages
    I am newly retired nurse and have been floundering in loss regret and shame and stuck on the couch eating. I walked a 1/2 mile today and that was scary a week ago. This is not like me—I am trying to find the pieces of me I love and do what she would do. She likes to read positive messages

  4. 4

    thank you for such wonderful advice it really helps get through the day on a much more positive note. thank you once again.

  5. 5

    As always, practical advice. Most of us know exactly what will help our circumstances, but we get caught in the powerlessness loop. Sadly, the longer we are in it, the deeper it becomes. Awareness is key, but awareness without action is actually self defeating.

  6. 6

    Wonderful…really made my day…I was overwhelmed with something that happened in my life…reading this helped me overcome everything and feel normal… Thanks.

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      Vivian Alston says:

      This is some of the Best Inspiration and Uplifting that I have read in a while. I thank you and I truly know, the best is yet to come for my Life. I know this, because God Loves me and he is at the head of my Life. Thank you.

  7. 8

    There is considerable stress in my life at this time. I became the caregiver for my wife after she suffered a severe spinal cord injury in 2008. She is confined to a wheelchair. There are days when it seems that whatever I try to do for her goes wrong and I sometimes loose my temper. That behavior on my part does nothing to help the situation and only worsens it. These postings help me to refocus and ease the situation.

  8. 9

    Each tip is sensational. Letting go and ceding control is something I work on daily. Getting better, improving, releasing. Thank you for sharing!


  9. 10

    Work to be better as human beings is the best we can do with our days. I feel it helps to notice that when it becomes difficult to let go of something, be it material or emotional, it’s because somewhere in my mind there’s a belief that this thing is absolutely necessary for my survival and happiness, and trying to change that behavior when my own well-being feels at stake, is very hard and takes a long time. It becomes much easier when I challenge the story, go deeper into why I feel I need to hold onto this, and realize I don’t really needed and in fact can be replaced by something much better.

  10. 11

    Dear Sir / Madam,

    Your essay is very useful and it carries a lot of good for people who are in dire need for inspirational motivation.

  11. 12

    Thank you so very much for posting this today.. It’s Exactly what I needed to here. It’s a great day today!!!

  12. 13

    good powerful useful motivation Thank you

  13. 14

    Your Words of Wisdom keep me inspired and make me think.

  14. 16

    I just found your site through a friends posting on facebook. I am going through a life experience that is dragging the energy from my thoughts and soul. The postings that I have read from you are so helpful to getting my head on straight and proceeding with focus. I already feel empowered to begin again, with a new perspective and a freshness that will fill the stale air of my former life. Thank you!

    • 17

      Hi Melissa: So glad you’ve found your way here:) Welcome. I am so happy that the articles are helpful to you. I know going through those life experiences sometimes can be challenging. I loved what you said about feeling empowered again. I think it is so helpful to know that once you feel like something has taken all your good energy, you can start turning things around by doing things that will help you recharge. Similar to what it sounds like you do, I also read the right books and information that I know will strengthen my belief and point me in the right direction. Thanks so much for the comment and for dropping by.

  15. 18

    I know I need to do many a thing…. Practice.
    Practice practice. I just wish the thing I need to do didn’t affect so many other people. That’s where the brakes come on but in my heart I know its right

  16. 19

    Thank you for sharing. Awesome words.

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    Jim Metcalf says:

    Lots of stress and turmoil in my life these days. This site has a calming effect on me and can make the days a lot easier.

  18. 21

    inspired, about fears or doubts the article said for me to shine my light or Truth and remind myself that everything will unfold just as I need it to. That means don’t get mad to quick! Thank You Sibyl! :)