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One Very Important Thing You Must Do Today In Your Relationship

“If you’re still looking for that one person who can change your life … take a look in the mirror.” Ramn Price.

Have you noticed how common relationship issues are? Maybe you know someone that is managing through issues right now or perhaps you’re managing through some relationship issues of your own.

Do you want to hear an interesting statistic?

According to a recent survey in Women’s Health Magazine, over 70% of people fantasize about leaving their partner either all of the time or some of the time. And, according to another survey, over 60% of people feel like the spark is gone in their relationship.

So, if you’re having relationship issues, you are definitely not alone.

But, here’s the deal, no matter how much our partner may drive us crazy, the majority of us want our relationships to work. We don’t want to have to continual arguments or tension in our relationship. Wouldn’t you agree that it can be frustrating and so draining to have to the same relationship issues over and over again?

The other day I was talking to one of my friends about the relationship issues she’s been having. Similar to so many other people, she really has been doing everything she could to resolve the issues in her relationship – counseling, patience, forgiveness, being understanding, etc. – you name it, she has tried it.

But, even though she and her husband makeup after fights, she says the same issues creep up. And, eventually they are back again right where they started with the same old issues they can’t resolve.

Improving Our Relationships

So, what can we do TODAY if we want our relationships to get on the right track and stay there?

Well, I have a somewhat non-traditional approach that works and I have personally tested it in my own relationship. When it comes to improving our relationships, instead of focusing 100% of our effort on fixing specific issues, what we really should do instead is follow the 80-20 rule.

The 80 – 20 rule means that you focus 80% of your attention on making sure you feel at your best as you move through the day – do things you enjoy that inspire, motivate you and get your good energy flowing. And, once you’ve done that, then you can focus your remaining 20% on whatever specific relationship issue you are trying to work through.

Now, this redirection of your focus doesn’t mean your partner doesn’t matter or that it is not important to work through relationship issues. But, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of spending way too much of our energy focused on our partner and our partner’s issues. Why is he so mean? Why does she just pick at me? Why can’t he be more loving and considerate? And, as I am sure you know, you can’t fix your partner … only your partner can fix your partner.

But, what you can control is how you feel. As we are always talking about, there is nothing more important than how you feel and how you experience every single moment. Everything flows from there. It’s like that great quote reminds us …

“Nothing will work unless you do.” Maya Angelou

When you’re feeling inspired, motivated and your good energy is flowing that positively impacts everything around you – your mood, your mindset, what you’re accomplishing and especially your relationship.

So, make sure you’re doing more of the things you enjoy. Maybe you like dancing, playing tennis, or doing yoga? Perhaps there is something you’ve always wanted to do like write poetry, or take singing or art lessons.

Make the time in your day to do any and all of it.

Your good energy will naturally spill over into your relationship and elevate all the interactions you are having with your partner. And, believe it or not, what eventually happens is that your partner will start mirroring your positive energy. Oftentimes, they will not even realize it, but they will be affected and influenced by your positive energy. They will even choose to behave better.

So, try it for one day. Put the 80-20 rule to the test Today. Not only will you personally start feeling even better, but your relationship issues will not be able to drain your good energy. And, that will help you get better results when it comes to fixing any of your relationship issues.

The Possibility of Today: Follow the 80-20 Rule & Improve Your Relationship

1. Create your 80% List. Maybe there is something you used to really enjoy doing, but you haven’t had a chance to do it lately? Or, perhaps there is something you’ve always wanted to do or accomplish? Take some time today and really think about the things you love to do that inspire you and make you feel good.

2. Schedule your “You Time”. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life and you take care of everyone and everything else, but don’t have time to take care of yourself. Reserve time in your day and make it a priority to get your “You Time”. You need it and deserve it.

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