Have you ever been working for awhile (maybe even for years) to get something you really wanted? Maybe there was something you were trying to accomplish or maybe you realized certain things needed to improve in your life?
Do you know what has always been interesting to me about these times when we’ve been doing our best to get the pieces to fall into place?
When things finally do fall into place … there will be something else. There are always more possibilities and even more things we are going to want, regardless of what we accomplish.
After you finally get the dream job, then it’s going to be about getting a promotion or the next job.
After you find the right person, then it’s going to be about creating a healthy relationship with that person.
After you finish writing the book and get it published, then it’s going to be about the next book.
There will always be something else.
Understanding that helps me keep everything in perspective (especially when I am still working and waiting for things to fall into place). It drives home the point that it can’t just be about reaching a particular destination because that destination will continually change.
Once we finally reach the top of the mountain we’ve been climbing, yes, it’s going to feel really good. We will celebrate, let out a sigh of relief, appreciate how far we’ve come … and then we are going to notice there is yet another mountain we should climb.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I believe we are meant to climb mountains and accomplish those things that are truly important to us. But, as we’ve heard time and time again, the most important thing is to enjoy the journey.
It’s how we feel every single day while we are moving in the direction we want to go that matters most.
But, how do you enjoy the journey when things get tough?
Let’s be real, sometimes enjoying the journey is not the easiest thing to do. There are so many things that happen as we journey up what I call the Possibility Spiral – the path we travel to get from wherever we are to where we want to be.
I think what bothered me the most was being on the backside of the Spiral. Of course I loved the times when I was on the front side of the Spiral and I could see things falling into place. But, I used to get shaken up and bothered when I would hit a backside of a Spiral. I was tired from working so hard, frustrated when challenges came up, and worried that everything wasn’t going to fall into place.
“Enjoy” felt like a distant feeling from how I really felt, even though I would do my best to pretend everything was okay. But, it dawned on me, that I didn’t need to pretend to be enjoying the journey if that wasn’t true.
Depending on what we’re working through, “enjoying the journey” may be challenging to do. But, it’s more than okay to aim instead for “trusting the journey”.
You choose to turn your attention to trusting whatever is happening and settle into the understanding that somehow life is rearranging perfectly to give you exactly what you need.
And, what’s great about turning our attention to trusting the journey is that we no longer have to try to answer questions we usually don’t have the answers to …
How much longer do I have to wait for things to fall into place?
Why do things have to be so hard?
Why do I have to deal with this now?
There are certain questions we may never have the answers to and when we focus on them that is when our fears and doubts cast a shadow on the day.
But, when we use our days to focus on trusting the journey, even the challenging days get easier. The fog of negativity lifts. We settle into the truth that everything we need will come at the perfect time and before we know it we are ready to get back to enjoying the journey.
The Possibility of Today: Settling into Trusting the Journey
Step #1 - Notice any doubts or other negative thoughts running through your mind.
Step #2- Comfort your doubts. Say, “I know it may be hard right now. Everything really is going to be okay, but, you’ve got to let go of these negative thoughts though because they work against you. Negative thought, get out of my mind now.”
Step #3- Take 3 deep breaths and then visualize everything working out.
Step #4- End with gratitude. Appreciate that the doubts surfaced because you need to work through them in order to get where you want to be.
Print this process out and keep it close. You might find that you only need to do it once a day. Other days you might need to do it every other minute. The key is to repeat the process until you feel better and are settled back into trusting the journey. Also, if you want to take steps forward together, you can check out the Live Today Better Program. This is the program I created to work with people and help them move up their Possibility Spirals.