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14 Things That Are Okay to Do (Even If Other People Tell You They Are Wrong)

Bewhoyouare.030“Be who you are and your life will transform forever.” Deepak Chopra

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting or questioning your desires and the things you want for your life? I can’t even begin to count the number of times I discounted what I truly wanted and convinced myself what I wanted wasn’t realistic or wasn’t going to happen.

But, you live and you learn. And, now I know better.

It’s not that I don’t still have doubts at times, but I know those doubts are the voice of my Chief Negativity Officer trying to convince me of something that is simply not true. So, instead of listening to the voice of my Chief Negativity Officer, I choose instead to listen to my intuition and move in the direction of my true desires.

One of the most important lessons I have learned is that your desires are not something you should discount or not act on because they are actually pointing you in the direction that your life is meant to grow.

I am not talking about the fleeting desires or impulses that fade away, but rather those genuine desires that you can feel deep down are right. When it comes to those desires, there is a reason – a very good reason- why they continue to surface in your mind and you feel drawn to them.

It’s your intuition doing its best to get your attention and assure you that you can trust the direction its pointing you in. You are meant to listen and do what you know deep down feels right.

So, from time to time, I update my list of things that are okay for me to do, even though my Chief Negativity Officer or other people may suggest otherwise. If you don’t have a list like this, I would recommend making one. It just helps you stay true to yourself and the things you genuinely desire for your life.

Also, the latest Possibility of Today podcast is all about the things you can do today to follow through on your desires. You can Click Here to listen to it.

 14 Things That Are Okay To Do … (In fact, they are more than okay)

It’s more than okay …

1. to be out of your comfort zone.

2. to refuse to worry about tomorrow.

3. to unconditionally love someone that is still learning to unconditionally love you.

4. to be an idealist.

5. to go against conventional wisdom.

6. to quit doing something that drains your positive energy.

7. to tell people exactly what you want.

8. to treat yourself to indulgences from time to time.

9. to take the day off, recharge, relax and be still.

10. to be scared and still go after what you truly want.

11. to learn through mistakes.

12. to avoid negative people and negative thoughts.

13. to march to your own beat.

14. to go after something more.

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  1. 1

    Hi Sibyl,

    Really cool ideas. I especially like no. 16.
    I always look at things through a lens of positivity and making the best of things. I think sometimes this is taken as naive or a denial of reality. In fact for me, I see what the situation entails and have then chosen to view it as an opportunity or a chance to let go and see what happens.
    This makes my process a lot happier!

    • 2

      Shona: Thanks for stopping by and I am in your camp and look at things the exact same way;) You are so right that often other people think you are naive or not facing reality. However, I have always believed that perception really is reality;) Thanks so much for the comment.

  2. 3

    Hi Sibyl,
    It’s ok to imagine without boundaries…..that’s the beauty. There are so many things that we are able to do (legally)…..then what’s stopping us? Thank you for putting this out there.
    be good to yourself

    • 4

      Hey David: That really is the beauty. It is all about dreaming, believing and pursuing. Thanks so much for dropping by and sharing your thoughts. Always great to hear them;)

  3. 5

    you’re amazing! ~als

  4. 7

    Well, I’ve never been much of a rule person. Maybe that comes from growing up in the 60s! So I liked your list and found many of the things reflected in my own life.

    • 8

      Hey Galen: Thanks so much for the comment. I am so glad that you liked the list and I hear you on doing your own thing;)

  5. 9

    Great list, Sibyl! You would’nt believe how many people have told me #1 is not Ok. I never listened to them.

    • 10

      Me either Vic 😉 and … I don’t think that makes either of us crazy;) Thanks so much for the comment and for dropping by.

  6. 11
    Patria Felix says:

    Thank you Sibyl for your articles, I eally enjoy them.

  7. 13

    Hi Sibyl,

    Hope you don’t mind if I have a little fun with this? only look at things from a positive perspective

    “The human race is just a chemical scum on a moderate-sized planet, orbiting around a very average star in the outer suburb of one among a hundred billion galaxies. We are so insignificant that I can’t believe the whole universe exists for our benefit. That would be like saying that you would disappear if I closed my eyes.” quit your 9-5 job and pursue your passion

    “My goal is simple. It is a complete understanding of the universe, why it is as it is and why it exists at all.” march to your own beat

    “All of my life, I have been fascinated by the big questions that face us, and have tried to find scientific answers to them. Perhaps that is why I have sold more books on physics than Madonna has on sex.” question everything

    “One might think this means that imaginary numbers are just a mathematical game having nothing to do with the real world. From the viewpoint of positivist philosophy, however, one cannot determine what is real. All one can do is find which mathematical models describe the universe we live in. It turns out that a mathematical model involving imaginary time predicts not only effects we have already observed but also effects we have not been able to measure yet nevertheless believe in for other reasons. So what is real and what is imaginary? Is the distinction just in our minds? ”

    …and finally: lose

    “I think it would be a disaster. The extraterrestrials would probably be far in advance of us. The history of advanced races meeting more primitive people on this planet is not very happy, and they were the same species. I think we should keep our heads low.”

    All Stephen Hawking quotes

    I know how you like *quotes* Sibyl!

    • 14

      Rand: So glad that you had fun with the post;) Thanks for the very thoughtful comment. I always think your perspectives and thoughts are extremely interesting. I think the one that wins the prize with this comment is what you said about extraterrestrials :) Thanks for the comment and sharing your thoughts.

  8. 17

    Awesome post!

  9. 18

    What an awesome list! I love these Sibyl. This is the kind of list we all need on the wall or the fridge or anywhere we can see it often. Thank you.

  10. 19

    Or you could just ignore them and go make the life or the love or the career you want. Trust your instincts, and honour your spirit and inner fire to bring forth all you imagine and want and need. It’s in us, and only us can make it come out and come alive. We are ‘it’. Never wave the white flag. Stunning post Sibyl weaved with self-belief and self-actualisation. Love it!!

    • 20

      Hey John: Thanks for the kind words about the post. You are so right, you can always just ignore them and go make the life you want:) It is all about believing in yourself and following your own truth. Thanks for dropping by.

  11. 21

    You know what I love about this post, Sibyl? It gives people permission. I know that probably sounds weird, but so many people go through life feeling like they don’t have permission to do the very things you’ve listed. And the truth is – they can – they will – they should! I when people see this it will give them the courage they need to step out and do the thing they “aren’t supposed” to do because it’s what they know they should do deep down inside. This is a very transformational post. Love it.

    • 22

      Hey Marlee: Thanks so much for the comment and I love what you said about the post and that it gives permission. I think that is a great way of putting it. It is so true that if we let other people hold us back and deter us from what we want to do, it will be much more difficult to move in the direction we are meant to. Thanks so much for the comment and for dropping by.

  12. 23

    Fantastic post Sibyl!

    100 people could tell me not to do something but at the end of the day..I just have to make that call for myself. I do have some people in my life that I really value and respect their opinion – but when it comes down to it – no one really knows my own personal dynamic more than myself – so I think I have to be the final decision holder in all things me. And above it all, I’ve driven by a much higher power anyway…a true perfect source.

    • 24

      Hey JK: Thanks for the comment and I totally agree. When it is all said and done, the best place to find our answers is to look within and follow our own truth. Thanks so much for the comment and thanks for stopping by.

  13. 25

    Excellent advice Sibyl.
    I like: To make mistakes and to be bold and start over.
    I gravitate toward these two because they seem to define my life.
    I’ve made a lot of mistakes but I’ve also learned from them and then taken
    bold new steps and started over – more times than I can count.
    Everyday is a fresh start as far as I’m concerned and an opportunity to learn and grow.
    Thank you for this excellent list.

    • 26

      Hey Anglea: I think understanding that you may make mistakes and being bold are definitely 2 very important ones. Life really is about living and learning and when we are bold and open to learn from mistakes it really is how we grow in all the ways we can. Thanks so much for the comment.

  14. 27

    Hi Sibyl,
    I am not a conformist by nature and I have always followed my own path. Sure this has gotten me some flack by others but I generally don’t listen to them.

    It’s time for a new age to begin and part of that new age is to be who we really are.

    • 28

      Justin: You are so right. It is definitely time to do your own thing and follow your own truth. It really is the only way you can be authentic and your true self. Thanks so much for the comment. Always appreciated.

  15. 29

    Hi Sibly,

    Its great for you to come up with the list. It really makes me think of myself more. I’m more interrested number 14.


    • 30

      Martinez: Thanks for the comment and thanks for stopping by. So glad that you liked the list:) You are more than welcome.

  16. 31

    After suffering huge losses over the last few years, experiencing depression for the first time and attempting to hold on to doing things the way everyone else does….. My wife turned me on to you. We are changing our thinking and moving forward because we have no other direction to go in. Thank you for your inspiration and possitive attitude. It truly has helped me to see things a different way. My wife gets to talk to you for 20 minutes soon and I can’t wait to hear what she learns from it. :) Have a great evening and God bless.

    • 32

      Hey Ted. I know exactly who you are married to:) I am very much looking forward to my call with your wife as well. Thank you so much for the kind words about the site. Thank you also for sharing your story. I am so glad that you have decided to change your thinking and move forward. That is really what it is all about and I can tell you from personal experience that greatness always comes out of challenges as long as you are paying attention and open to the lessons that are coming your way. I can tell from your comment that you absolutely are. I am so glad that you dropped by the site and hope you will be returning:) It is great to have you here.

  17. 33
    patricia neild says:

    Hi Sybil, I have a small problem and this is where I get all confused about doing something to rectify what I think is a wrong and letting go and accepting what is.
    I recently had a small workroom built which was a dream of 12 years and the painter did a really bad job and has to come back and redo his work which entails scraping back the paint on doors which have lovely new brass locks which he has scraped badly which will affect the special protective finish. The room also has beautiful new flooring which has also been damaged. He keeps delaying his return and wont communicate and I want to report him to the building authority but I feel guilty and angry at the same time. Can you help please Many thanks Patricia

    • 34

      Hey Patricia: I have been in a situation very similar. Don’t you just love when people test your patience and tolerance? :) It is much easier to look back now and see what I learned, but I am sure that is a pretty frustrating and irritation situation for you. I know I felt that way. I think the best thing to do is to be as kind as possible to him and ask him to come and repair the damage. I would be as patient as possible, but I understand that at some point you are going to need to just fix the situation. You don’t want this to linger too long, especially since it was one your dreams to have this work space. I think you have to do what you feel is right, but when this happened to me and the person never rectified the situation, I just moved on. I fixed it as best as I could and moved on so the person couldn’t take up any more of my mental space. It made me feel good that I was able to move on and now looking back, I can see that was definitely the right solution for me. Hope that helps you. Just do what feels right to you:) Let me know if I can help anymore:)

  18. 35

    Very encouraging :)

  19. 37

    I really like #1, but it seems so hard to do. Every day I continue to work at making that happen. And it WILL happen!

    • 38

      :) Just keep working at it. You are right. It will happen. Thanks so much Chris for the comment. I appreciate it.

  20. 39

    ooh, Brenda’s comment (number 16) about putting this on the fridge just gave me a great idea, I’ve only just found your site and this is my second comment already, lol!

    You should make a calendar with a quote for the day/week on, and/or a desk note jotter – you could sell them and we could all benefit! What do you think? :)

    • 40

      Thanks Shell so much for the kind words. I really appreciate it and am so glad that you think so highly of the site:) I am actually in the midst of writing a book and a course about you “unstoppable success”, but I was thinking of doing something similar to what you described next. Thank you so much for the great suggestion and I am flattered that you would hang my calendar on your fridge:)

  21. 41
    Sue Killian says:

    WOW!!!! God is GOOD!!! Exactly the words I needed to hear on this day!!! The hand of God reached down and embraced me through the vessel of you!!!! Thank you for doing what you do and sharing your compassion, wisdom, and truth for all who seek…. As a kindred spirit and dare i say soul sister….;) I honor, lift you up, and appreciate the being of you!!! Thank you for honoring your inner voice and following your calling… Sybil, YOU truly are one of God angels!!!! :)

    • 42

      Wow — thanks Sue for the kind words. I really appreciate it and am so glad that the article came to you at the right time. That happens to me also and I just love it when the perfect message comes at the perfect time. Thanks so much for stopping by and taking the time to comment.

  22. 43

    Hi Sibyl, So at the age of 51 I decided to follow a dream and become a flight attendant and through out this journey I think I have acheived all 30 of your things to do that are ok! It’s been the best decision I have ever made, along with the most difficult and life changing!

  23. 44
    Jessy DeFreitas says:

    Hi Sybil, I just did no1 this past Friday. I’m excited yet scared but looking forward to launching my activewear line called KenPhoo Activewear. I love all your postings.thanks for such a positive page. Jessy

    • 45

      Hey Jessy:) I know that took a lot of courage so please accept my total congratulations. I can remember exactly how I felt that day after I quit my job. It was exciting, but there was still so much that was unknown. Take it one day at a time and know that you are moving in the right direction:) Congrats on following your passion — so inspiring. Thanks for sharing it here.

  24. 46

    THIS is wonderful Sibyl! I just shared it with a women’s group recently formed to uplift each other emotionally and professionally as they ascend into their dreams and passions discovered. Thank you SO much for sharing. Be well.

    • 47

      That sounds like a great group Dorian. I wish I could have been there to join in on the discussion:) Thank you so much for the kind words and thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

  25. 48

    My 86 yo mother has lived with us for 6 years. I moved her here after my sibling sold her house, spent most of proceeds and was not taking care of her. I did this out of love but she only expects more. I’m exhausted and get no relief from siblings. ? So I want to add it is OK to move mom into a senior living apartment. It is OK to want my life back.. , to enjoy life without the burden of caretaker and responsible for her.

    • 49

      Barbara: Thanks so much for dropping by and taking th time to comment. YOu are more than welcome to add to the list:) I know caregiving decisions can be hard ones to make – but just follow your heart and what feels right for you:) I have found when you do that, you can’t really go wrong.

  26. 50

    I really like this post re: all the things it’s OK to do no matter what anybody else tells you is OK. It helps me remember that listening to other people’s thinking is good, but really needs to be sifted through what I know is right for me.

    • 51

      Jack: Thanks for the comment and you are so right. It’s all about finding your way to your own truth and following that:)

  27. 52
    shimelis says:

    excellent ideas, thank u very much

    • 53

      So glad you liked it and found the ideas helpful. Thank you for dropping by and taking the time to let me know.

  28. 54

    Have you ever thought about including a little bit more than just your
    articles? I mean, what you say is valuable and all.
    However think of if you added some great graphics or video clips to give your posts more,
    “pop”! Your content is excellent but with pics and videos, this blog could certainly be
    one of the very best in its field. Fantastic blog!

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  30. 57
    Patty Heitzman says:

    I REALLY,REALLY hate it when other people tell me what to do,especially my husband.It makes me feel like a slave.I don’t mind if my bosses at work tell me what to do.It’s their jobs.Why do people tell other people what to do all the time?They interrupt those people when they’re doing something.

  31. 58

    Stop saying to others
    ‘you make me feel’.
    That emotion belongs to ones self and has the potential to always be positive and loving.

  32. 59
    Fatimah says:

    Hi Sibyl,
    Thanks for the list. After enduring so much negativity in my life I’m trying to live my life as I believe and not as others belief. I’m learning to believe in myself and my assets.

  33. 60

    13. to march to your own beat.

    …see #13 comment above…^

    …2011 may have been the year when *Laughter* was my word.

    …laughter or simply a mild sense of humor helps even through the most trying of times.

    Thanks for these fourteen my dear friend.

    And the beat goes on…

  34. 61
    Davis Nguyen says:

    Love it especially #4. to be an idealist.

  35. 62

    Wow!! Thanks for sharing it. All are very nice ideas, specially take the day off, recharge, relax and be still. I always felt guilty about taking off and chilling at home doing nothing for whole day. People use to tell me that you are not responsible… be disciplined…etc etc.. But, i was like.. What?? Can’t i take a day off if want to enjoy this beautiful whether?
    Now reading this… i must say i love to do wrong.

  36. 64

    Great article and great advice!
    i need to do #9 more often

  37. 65

    can any one share with me what he think about what i am doing

    i have a lot of intrests to many areas , speacially creative work , like painting , and writing , photography , web design , book cover design , business entreprenuer ship , reading , film making

    the problem is between me and my self , when i look at many creative famouse people – i found them are successful in one single interest .

    and after that i look at my self , and say ” am i wrong , because i like to make several things ”

    this question mean , is it true or not , person who love something and have a passion for area “A” , should not look at area ” B” ?

    who can describe what is speciality is ?

    • 66

      Thank you Sibyl for reminding me to follow my own desires and truth no matter how ludicrious it may seem, or how much risk it may involve.
      Another thing I wish some people would understand is that sometimes certain things are unclear, and that is ok, and not to rush into decisions before one is ready. Even if one does make a mistake afterall, or supposedly waste time, is it really a mistake, or just your life path, and something to learn and grow from, that will take you where you are meant to go?