A couple of days ago, I was talking with my friend about this crazy year. At times, it has just been so challenging to dig deep and keep moving forward day after day.
She described it perfectly.
She said, it feels like you’re swimming against the current.
I agreed. That is exactly how it feels. I said, it’s a TOTAL grind! It’s like those days when you were a kid, riding your ten speed bike up a huge steep hill. You’re in first gear. And man! you’re peddling as fast as you can. You’re slowly making progress. But, you’re working really really hard to earn each inch forward.
We both laughed a little. What else can you do? Quitting isn’t an option.
So, if you’re in a similar position, know that you’re not alone. Also, even though today it may feel like we’re swimming against the current, at least we’re swimming.
Slowly, but surely, we’re making our way through. And, let’s not forget, like that great saying explains…
“The best way out is always through.” Robert Frost
What to Do Today
It’s good to have a daily approach that keeps things clear and helps you continually take steps forward. One approach for the day that continually works for me:
“Focus on what you can control, and trust whatever you can’t.”
Three things to focus on every day as we make it through these times:
(1) What we think
(2) What we say, and
(3) What we choose to do.
1. What we think –Be aware of the thoughts that are running through your mind, especially any negative repetitive ones. At times, we may have negative thoughts that creep up in our minds, but the key is to not let them linger in your mind and go uncorrected. A good practice is to end a cycle of negative thinking with a reminder of the Truth.
Negative thinking cycle:
“Things are never going to work out.”
“I can’t handle this anymore.”
“I’m so tired of trying.”
TRUTH: “I am making progress and finding the way through.”
2. What we say – The words that come out of our mouth every day matter. It’s easy to fall into the trap of self-pity and a “woe is me” attitude. So, when we’re talking about our situation or whatever we’re working through, we want to make sure we’re using empowering and thoughtful words based on the Truth.
3. What we do – At the beginning of each day, choose one step forward that you’ll take. It doesn’t matter if it’s only a small step, as long as it keeps you moving forward. It’s also important to give yourself plenty of “Me” time every day to relax and settle your mind. Start the day off with meditation, silence, a long walk or anything else that helps you unplug. And, continually take breaks throughout the day to relax and enjoy silence.
The Current Changes
These times when it feels like we’re swimming against the current can really push us.
But, things aren’t challenging just for the sake of being challenging. Everything that’s happening in your life right now is happening for a reason. Even if it’s sometimes hard to see, this time is leading you to those things you asked for.
The current will change, like it always does. Today, life is rearranging, shifting and changes are happening. Trust the process.
It’s like one of my all time favorite quotes reminds us.
“Everything comes to you at the right moment. Be patient.”