Have you ever noticed how easy it is to stay stuck on an emotional roller coaster ride because we’re way too affected by the ups and downs of life?
The constant shift of certain things going right and other things going wrong can really get to us.
One day we’re overly excited. Something good happens. We say to ourselves, “Yes! I feel great. After all I’ve gone through, things are finally falling into place.”
But then we turn around and the next day something goes wrong. We’re bummed. The negative thoughts instantly begin to run on repeat in our mind. We say to ourselves, “This is terrible. How could this happen? What am I going to do?”
Just as quickly as things worked out one day, things can go wrong even quicker the next.
I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I fell into this trap of being way too affected by the endless cycle of the ups and the downs of life. Your emotions are all over the place. The Chief Negativity Officer in your mind starts running its games and focusing on everything that is going wrong. Before you know it, you’re on the downward spiral, and it feels terrible.
But, there is a better way to experience the “ups and downs” of life … a much better way.
It doesn’t require us to make a big change. It doesn’t mean we need to do things drastically different. It simply comes down to two important things:
Awareness and Choice.
Being Aware And Choosing Not To Overreact To The “Ups and Downs” Of Life
We’re human and on any given day our emotions can change.
There may be days when we have a surge of emotions because we’re excited. There may be other days when we just want to have a pity party because we’re worried or disappointed about something.
One of the best ways I’ve seen our changing emotions explained is shown on this picture below. It’s called the “Atlas of Emotions” and it comes from a really interesting study done by the Dalai Lama and Dr. Paul Ekman. Each color below represents a different emotion: Enjoyment, Anger, Disgust, Sadness, and Fear.
The picture shows how our emotions can change and vary during the day. In fact, today, depending on what’s going on in our lives, it’s possible that we’ll feel the strength of one or all of these emotions.
There will also probably be all types of thoughts that will run through our mind today:
Some positive. Some negative.
Some true. Some not true (but if we believe them they cause needless worry and doubts).
Choosing To Do it Differently
That’s where awareness and choice come in because once we’re aware of how our emotions move through us and how thoughts run through our mind, we can choose to not overreact.
What matters most is that we stay aware, centered and choose to patiently work with whatever emotions and thoughts are arising in the moment.
Life Will Continually Go “Right” and “Wrong”
As you’ve probably heard before, our lives are constantly changing. Situations happen that allow our life to shift, change and rearrange, but it’s all happening for our best interest.
And, our life flows more easily when we’re staying aware and calmly working through each experience while things are shifting, changing and rearranging around us.
It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with enjoying the ups and feeling good when things go right. It’s also understandable if we’re emotional at times and feel the sting of disappointment when things don’t work out as we hoped.
It’s only a problem when we’re way too affected by the situations (both good and bad) happening around us. When we lose our peace of mind or find ourselves not trusting life enough and the way it’s unfolding.
The Possibility of Today
So today, if “good” or “bad” things happen, there’s no need to get worked up or overreact. There’s a way to stay centered and celebrate things going “right” or deal with anything that may go “wrong” in a healthy way.
Staying aware and choosing how to respond is key. It also allows us to not get too attached to the outcome of every single situation.
Because regardless of how it may appear, every single thing that happens to us is leading us exactly where we need to be. It’s like one of the best quotes reminds us …
“Everything happens for a reason. Nothing occurs by chance. It’s all a part of a Divine plan. Take advantage of it. Learn to trust it and go where it leads you.”
– With Love, Sibyl