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What To Do When You Have Too Much To Do

It'snottheload.050Is it just me or have you also had a lot going on? Challenges left and right, handling so much at work, at home and then don’t forget about trying to make progress when it comes to the other things we also want for our life.

So much to do … never enough time.

How do we handle it all and keep our peace of mind (which we know is so important)?

Well, I remembered something that I finally learned after so many years (decades) of moving through busy times like these the wrong way.

In the past, when I felt like I had too much to do, it used to bother me. I let myself get stressed out and always felt like I hadn’t done enough. I resented a lot of things I felt I had to do because they were weighing me down and getting in the way of the things I really wanted.

The Chief Negativity Officer in my mind would take over and the negative mind chatter would start …

“It’s just too much. I am never going to be able to do all of this.”

“If I didn’t have to worry about dealing with (_________), then maybe I would be able to handle all the other things I really want to finish.”

“Why do I have to handle everything? It always falls on me.”

Listening to my Chief Negativity Officer never did anything but made me feel worse and less productive. I finally realized the problem wasn’t all “the stuff” I had to handle or all the “issues” I needed to work through. Yes, it was a lot, but it wasn’t causing the real problem. It’s like that great quote by Lena Horne reminds us …

“It’s not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.”

I absolutely was not carrying my load the right way. It’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture and why it is actually a good thing that so much is going on.

Although on the surface, it just looks like we have a lot of issues and too much to do, what is actually happening is that life is rearranging perfectly to give us exactly what we need and what we have asked for.

Things are changing, moving, shifting and of course that means we have to be a part of the process and help them change, move and shift, but every single thing we are doing in one way or another is lining up to eventually benefit us.

And when I realized that … everything changed.
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How You Stay Inspired And Keep Moving Toward What You Want

Everythingyouneed.025Do you want to know something that finally dawned on me? It’s okay to not know. It’s okay to not know exactly “how” something is going to happen or “how” things will actually come together… and still completely believe everything will work out.

For so many years, I thought it was enough if I just took steps in the right direction and “hoped for the best”.

And, you hear people say things like this all the time …

“I don’t know if it will work out, but I am trying and hoping for the best.” “Only time will tell, but I am giving it everything I have and staying positive.”

That used to be the way I thought about things too.

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One Important Question To Ask Yourself Today

Imagineanewstory2“Imagine a new story for your life and start living it.” Paulo Coelho

Have you heard that from time to time you should ask yourself a thoughtful and inquisitive question and see what your honest answer is?

Well, according to the research and what a lot of people have found to be true, if we ask ourselves the right questions, we can figure out what we truly want, discover what we’re meant to do; and asking the right questions will even lead to “aha moments” where something clicks and we realize our best steps forward.

If you think about it, it really does make sense. I mean so often we are moving from one thing to the next – taking care of work, our family, or the many other things we need to handle. But, when we stop and give ourselves the time and space to figure out what’s most important to us and those things we are truly meant to do, it really can change everything.

So, when I came across this suggestion and all the benefits from asking ourselves thoughtful and inquisitive questions, I went searching for the perfect question.

One Important Question We Should Ask Ourselves

I came across this great TED speech by Regina Dugan and she said that a very important question we should all ask ourselves is …

“What would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn’t fail?”

What would you choose to go after if you knew that no matter what it was you chose, you would absolutely be able to take steps in the right direction and then the day would come where you were successful?

It’s a pretty big question isn’t it? The answer could be anything – maybe something you’ve always wanted to accomplish? Or, maybe something you feel you’re meant to do?

Now, if you’re questioning whether you can really not worry about failing and choose anything, the answer is “yes”. This is something I had to push myself to do, but the reality is that if there is something you genuinely want or feel you were meant to do, there is a path to it. (This is actually the topic of the latest Possibility of Today Podcast if you want to check it out.)

You wouldn’t have something that you feel you were meant to do or that you’re genuinely passionate about without also being given a way to make it happen. That’s just not the way things work.

That’s also why you can’t let the idea of failure prevent you from going after what you truly want. It’s like Regina Dugan said in her TED speech, “when you remove the idea of failure, impossible things suddenly become possible.” And, it really is true and why I love this question so much. It immediately opens up a new way of looking at your options and the things you want for your life.

So, after you’ve figured out what you truly want and what you would attempt to do, then the next and most important question is…

What are you doing today to take a step toward it?

It’s not that you have to make drastic changes. But, we should always be taking a step every day toward those things we want for our life. It’s the way we continually make progress and avoid falling into the trap where we are settling for things being less than what we know they can be.

It’s like one of my favorite quotes by Nelson Mandela reminds us -

“There is no passion in playing small or settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” 

The Possibility of Today: Asking Yourself the Right Question

1. Take time today and find your answer to the question: What would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

2. Align your day with your answer. Figure out what you can do today (and every today that follows) to take another step toward what you truly want. It doesn’t have to be big … baby steps taken consistently every day will get you there. “It doesn’t matter how slow you go… as long as you go.”

Live Today Better Than Yesterday.

Check out the latest radio episode of Possibility of Today: One Important Question to Ask Yourself Today

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5 Simple But Powerful Things To Keep Top Of Mind Today (Part #14)

“It might take a year. It might take a day. But, what’s meant to be will always find a way.”

Haven’t you noticed that sometimes the simplest things can catch our attention and leave us with the perfect takeaway message we needed to hear? Something in us shifts and we have a moment of clarity. We recognize our Truth and know we are meant to believe and trust in what we’ve always felt deep down.

It’s not that we didn’t know … it’s just that we needed a reminder.

If we are open and listening, the perfect messages always come at the perfect time. They guide us in the direction we need to go and provide us with any reassurances we may be looking for.

Although our individual experiences are different, there is a common Truth we share. So, oftentimes there are similar messages we are meant to hear. Here are 5 messages that have recently come my way and reminded me of what I needed to hear. Maybe one or all of them will also be helpful to you. [Read more...]

37 Things That Are “Okay To Do” Even If Other People Tell You They Are Wrong

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Have you noticed how sometimes you can doubt yourself or someone will say something that makes you question a decision you’ve made?

It’s easy to let the things other people say cast a shadow of doubt on decisions and things we know deep down are really right for us. 

In the past, there were too many times I reconsidered or decided not to do something just because of what other people said. There were even other times where I got in my own way and convinced myself to not go after something because of my own doubts.

But, you live and learn …

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How You Get The Things You Want To Fall Into Place

Itmighttakeayear2 “It might take a year. It might take a day. But, what’s meant to be will always find a way.”

Don’t you agree with this quote and that if something is really meant to be, somehow or someway it will happen? Of course it might take some time, but if there is something we are meant to accomplish or something we are meant to have in our lives, then wouldn’t you say it’s true that at some point we will find the way to it?

I think this is something we believe deep down and know to be true. But, the sticking point and the questions that may surface in our minds are “What if what I want isn’t really what is meant to be?” It’s so easy to fall into the trap of doubting and questioning if the things we want for our life are really going to happen. We think to ourselves, “Maybe I am just wanting something that I am never going to have” or “If it really is meant to be, then why aren’t things falling into place?” [Read more...]

4 Simple But Powerful Steps To Make It Through Challenges Much Easier

Ihavealways“I have always believed, and I still believe, that whatever good or bad fortune may come our way we can always give it meaning and transform it into something of value.” Herman Hesse

Have you ever felt like no matter which way you turned, there was another challenge or some other issue to deal with? You finally make some progress, but before you know it, another issue comes up, and another, and another.

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36 Excuses You Want to Avoid Making in 2014

Where the heart is willing, it will find a thousand ways. Where it is unwilling, it will find a thousand excuses. – Arlen Price

Doesn’t 2013 already seem like a distant memory? It’s always been so interesting to me how quickly time goes by. I feel like it was just yesterday that I was toasting Y2K and the new millennium. Now, here we are fourteen years later in 2014.

Well, I have this feeling that 2014 is going to be a big year for us. Not because I can predict the future and not because I am overly optimistic about things always going smoothly. My 2013 was definitely filled with its own ups, downs, curve balls, victories, and a healthy handful of challenges.

But, that’s okay because that’s the way life goes. We experience it all … the “good”, the not so “good”, the happy times and sometimes the experiences that stretch us, make us dig deeper and remind us of who we really are.

When you step back and look at things from the right perspective, you can see that even though certain times may have been really tough, every single experience has in one way or another shaped you, strengthened you and given you what you need to live even better moving forward.

It’s like that great quote by Rikki Rogers explains,

“Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.”  [Read more...]

5 Simple But Powerful Things To Keep Top Of Mind Today (Part #13)

WhatiscomingHave you ever had those times where you know you’ve got to dig deep and keep on pushing through until you get to the other side of something? It’s like you’re on the final stretch of a race you’ve been running for a very long time and you’re at the point where it’s time to finally push on through.

Well, one thing I realized about times like these is that the most important thing we can do is stay centered, stay calm and focus on living each moment in front of us as best we can. You turn your attention away from any doubts, concerns or worries about the future and focus only on today and the present moment.

It’s like that great quote reminds us,

“What happened yesterday is history. What happens tomorrow is a mystery. What we do today makes a difference – the precious present moment.” - Nick Saban

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3 Simple But Powerful Steps You Can Take And Improve Today

Everythingyouneed.025“Everything you need will come to you at the perfect time”.

Doesn’t it feel like even though 2014 has just begun, there is already a lot to manage through? Maybe you have had a lot going on or issues that need to be resolved. Or, maybe you are managing through some changes or personal challenges.

Whatever the case may be, haven’t you felt like there is a lot to work through? I know I personally have been managing through so much lately.

Haven’t you also noticed how easy it is to feel overwhelmed or get lost in worry? Our minds can continually focus on worse case scenarios and make things feel ten times worse than they really are.

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