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How To Keep Taking Steps Forward (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It)

 

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Lately, I’ve had to dig deep (and I mean real deep) to keep pushing and take care of the things I need to handle.

On Saturday, after breakfast, I had to motivate and pump myself up for two hours before I dragged myself into my office and sat down to finally tackle my taxes.

On Sunday, I pushed through the voice of the Chief Negativity Officer in my mind that works tirelessly to fan the flames of my fears and doubts that things will not work out.

Yesterday, I pushed through the feeling of being so behind with work that I might as well let some things go because I was never going to get it all done.

Have you ever noticed how sometimes we have to push through and do things we don’t feel like doing?

Well, I’ve been thinking about this a lot since it doesn’t seem like resistance, doubts, or the Chief Negativity Officer are going away anytime soon.

And here are three things things I took away from all of these experiences:

1. Resistance sucks.

2. Doubts are just as terrible.

3. And when our Chief Negativity Officer gets triggered, it can really go crazy.

But, I also have to say, there really is grace underneath it all.

Every single time we dig deep and overcome something we thought was too hard, or would take too long, or would never happen… something in us changes for the better.

We get stronger and build our faith with each experience.

We grow in all the ways we need and gain more clarity about who we are, what’s most important to us and how to keep building the life we really want.

So, in case you’re looking for a quick reminder, I’m going to pass along the same message I’ve been telling myself lately …

Dig deep today if you must, but make sure to take at least one step forward. So many more good things are on the other side of what you’re pushing through.

xoxo,
Sibyl

Making Enough Progress? Try This New Approach

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Lately, there seems to be a common feeling a lot of people are having…

Enough is enough. It’s time for things to finally fall into place.

Or, as one of my friends said the other day, it’s been a long uphill climb and it’s time for some WINS! I know I agree. Do you?

Well, if you’re with us and still waiting on certain things to work out, then here’s a good motto to LIVE by that will be amazingly helpful…

“Focus all your energy not on fighting the old, But on building the NEW.”

-Socrates

Yes, as off the wall as it may sound, I’m recommending we live our days according to ancient philosophy. Of course, this isn’t just any ancient philosophy… it’s Socrates. That’s about as good as it gets when it comes to timeless wisdom.

So, how do we practically live by this philosophy?

We decide our new daily motto is: “Building the NEW”. [Read more…]

A Simple But Powerful Thought To Have Today

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Last week I came across an article about the movie Groundhog Day. Do you remember that movie? For some reason, when I first saw the movie, I didn’t really like it.

It’s ironic that I wasn’t an instant fan of the movie because my birthday is actually on Groundhog Day every year – February 2nd;-). And, interestingly enough, the movie is about one of the most important lessons we can ever learn. Guess I missed that!

But, as the article put it… “The movie Groundhog Day is directly and practically applicable to how we spend our day today and everyday.”

A Quick Recap

In case you haven’t seen the movie, Phil, the main character, is trapped in what I call an “Infinite Loop” so every day is pretty much the same. It isn’t until he realizes that he needs to do things differently that he finally stops repeating the cycle and lives the life he always wanted.

So, while I was reading this article last week, I was reminded of how easy it is for anyone to fall into this trap where you unknowingly do things day after day that are working against you. Thankfully, most people aren’t as blinded to the truth as Phil was in the movie.

But, have you ever noticed how you can get used to doing things the same way you’ve always done them?

Whether it’s with work, or in a relationship, or something we’ve been working to make happen in our life, we can end up unknowingly repeating behaviors, habits and doing things that aren’t actually helping us get the results we want.

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It’s All Preparation For Better Things

A couple of days ago, I was sitting in a coffee shop scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed and noticed this quote was an extremely popular post:

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I think this quote resonated with a lot of people (myself definitely included) because it’s something we can always benefit from being reminded of.

Every single situation you’re working through today is preparing you for better things … including the problems, challenges or anything else.

The situations we’re dealing with, in one way or another, are preparing us for something better – something we asked for, hoped for and wanted for our life.

It’s that simple. It’s that clear. [Read more…]

One Powerful Question To Ask Yourself Today

Whatyoudotoday(1200628)Have you heard that only 8% of people accomplish the goals and resolutions they set out to accomplish at the beginning of the year?

8% … that’s it.

So, if you’ve ever had a year when you didn’t accomplish everything you wanted, know that you’re not alone.

But, it does raise an important question. Is there something we should be aware of when it comes to these 8% of people that are continually accomplishing what they want for their life? Are they doing something special?

This topic has always been really interesting to me. In fact, for years I’ve been taking a closer look at what’s going on behind the scenes.

Well, there are a lot of different factors and it’s important to not oversimplify, but there is one thing that is consistent with these 8% of people that are continually succeeding year after year.

There is a way they go about things. There is a consistent approach.
And, one of the key factors is alignment. [Read more…]

3 Things To Do Set Yourself Up For A Rich, Fulfilled & Successful 2016

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This quote was one of the most popular quotes on Facebook last week. I’m sure it’s because so many people agree that 2015 was a year filled with lessons. Phew, I know it was definitely a year of lessons for me.

Now it’s time for 2016 … and a fresh new year filled with so many possibilities.

That means it’s also time to do three important things so we can make sure we’re recharged, inspired and ready to keep moving forward with the best perspective.

3 Things To Do Set Yourself Up For A Rich, Fulfilled & Successful 2016

1. Remember How Far You’ve Come
If you’ve been pushing day after day for a long time but there is still more road to travel, it’s important to have a “positive reality check” with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the trap of overlooking all the things you’ve already done and successfully pushed through.

The Chief Negativity Officer in our mind is notorious for overlooking progress. [Read more…]

An Interesting Fact About Happiness

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Here’s an interesting little fact…

According to a recent study, many 70 year olds are happier than 30 year olds.

Why?

Well, the study explained that older people have a greater appreciation for the little things in life. Older people also have found more appreciation for who they are – their strengths, weaknesses and everything they’ve been through.

So, what’s the takeaway message? [Read more…]

5 Important Life Lessons Learned This Year

IfwearefacingI was on the phone yesterday catching up with one of my friends. We were looking back on the year and talking about everything that happened.

This year was filled with so many different experiences for both of us. We had some great times, but this year was definitely one where we both felt we had to dig really deep and work through a lot of challenges.

She asked me what I thought the most important lessons were that I learned. There have been so many that I almost didn’t even know where to begin. But, at the end of every year I like to focus in on the most important lessons learned and write them down on a list. Since we often get many of the same lessons, I thought it would be helpful for you to take a look at the list in case you also learned any of these lessons.

It helps you make sure you’ve taken away the right messages and understandings so you can live even better going forward. It also can help you avoid any unnecessary repeat lessons. It’s like that great quote by Pema Chodron reminds us.

“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”

So, if you don’t already have one of these “lessons learned” lists, you might want to create one or feel free to use this one.

Here are 5 of the most important lessons from the year…(in no particular order).

Lesson #1

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The lesson to “let go” of things that aren’t right for us can creep up in so many different areas of life – work, friendships, relationships, bad habits, etc. It’s easy to stay stuck doing what we’ve been doing. We make excuses to not “let go” but deep down we know better. Sometimes you have to be willing to let go of certain things so better things can come your way. [Read more…]

One Great Thought To Have Today

 

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So, I wanted to pass it along to you because it’s easy to get attached to what we want or think is best. But, oftentimes when things don’t fall into place like we hoped, we’re being redirected to something that’s better for us in the long run.

Perhaps it’s something you can’t see yet from your current perspective, or maybe more things need to shift before you can see the bigger picture. But, it’s important to always remember that your life is rearranging perfectly to lead you to what you truly need and deserve. It helps you shake off needless worries and doubts.

And, like another great quote by the Dalai Lama reminds us,

“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”

xoxo,
Sibyl

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Finding Clarity: When You Don’t Know What Else You Can Do

Anythingyoucan'tcontrol(1200628)Have you ever had a time when you’ve been trying so hard but something really important to you still hasn’t worked out? What you’ve been hoping for hasn’t fallen into place like you wanted.

Maybe you’re even unsure about your best steps forward because it’s not like you haven’t been trying everything. You’ve been patient and open and willing and trying and believing, but it doesn’t seem to matter because it’s not working.

So, what do you do? You can’t just give up. You’ve got to figure something out. What’s the best path forward?

I asked myself this exact question the other day. Even though I’ve been in situations like this before that are filled with uncertainty, I always seem to reach the point when I need a reminder of the best path forward.

You’ve got to control the things you’re meant to and trust the things you’re not able to control, I reminded myself the other day.

Achieving The Ideal Balance

There’s a balance we’re meant to strike because it’s not always about resigning to situations and deciding there’s nothing you can do. But, it’s also not about trying to control everything or thinking things need to happen the way you expect or on your timeline.

Instead it’s about achieving an ideal balance. You live from your Extraordinary Side, or Higher Self, each day so you can best work through whatever situation or circumstances you’re confronted with.

On some days that means it’s time to take another step forward and find your way through the latest challenge.

On other days, it means you accept there’s nothing more you can do because you’ve already done all you could. On these days, you’re being asked to let go and trust that whatever is happening is somehow or someway leading you exactly where you need to be (even if it’s not what you wanted).

You live each day according to the wisdom of one of the most profound and timeless truths…

Accept the things you cannot change
Have the courage to change the things you can
And the wisdom to know the difference

Your state of mind becomes more peaceful, faithful, patient and wise. You are living each day as your Extraordinary Side and that changes everything … including helping to resolve the situation and your problems.

It may not always be the way you thought or exactly the way you wanted, but it’s the way it needs to be. It’s perfect for you. It’s the beautiful unfolding of your life that you can trust and it’s leading you exactly where you need to be. It’s like another one of my favorite quotes reminds us …

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” ― Eckhart Tolle

3 Important Things To Remember:

1. Set Yourself Up Every Morning To Have A Mindful Day: Get up a little earlier and give yourself extra time (1 – 2 hrs.) to relax, meditate, do yoga, exercise or anything else that settles your mind. Yes, challenges happen and life gets difficult at times, but problems are always less complicated when your mind isn’t amplifying problems, doubts or fears.

Remember that your mindset during the day and your thoughts about the situation determine how you feel and also play a vital role in how and when situations settle and fall into place.

If you’re filled with doubts, stuck in a negative thinking pattern, complaining, always seeing the glass half empty, stressed, etc. then you’re not trusting and working with the present moment.

Overdo the relaxation time and spend as much time as you can settling your mind and staying centered in your Extraordinary Side. It helps tremendously.

2. Get Rid Of Disappointment By Reminding Yourself of The Truth: A lot of times when we’re waiting for things to fall into place, we want answers and resolutions as quickly as possible. But, those expectations are exactly what feed the negative patterns of anxiety, stress, and worry.

The reality is that most situations don’t get resolved overnight and a lot of times they don’t get resolved quickly. Don’t get upset or assume things will not work out because another challenge comes up or it’s taking a while for things to get resolved. Whatever is happening is helping you get exactly where you need to be, even the challenges. So, remind yourself of this throughout the day because it’s easy to forget.

3. Get Your Mind Out Of The Way & Take It One Step At A Time. No overthinking, focusing on worse case scenarios, or being angry or upset about the situation you’re in. During the day, catch yourself every time you notice you’re focusing on the wrong things. Do the work that is necessary to pull your mind out of its dysfunctional patterns. When you consistently do this, you’re able to see your best steps forward, more clarity comes and the bumpy ride smoothes out.

Live Today Better Than Yesterday.