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How You Can Best Handle Challenging Days

Yourdecisiontowalk“Your decision to walk will create the path ahead.” Paulo Coelho

I am sitting outside at a coffee shop with my headphones on putting together my “to do” list for the day. It’s going to be a busy day. I’ve got a list of things I need to handle today.

I am working up the energy to call my health insurance company … again. I have been trying to resolve the same issue for months. I’ve been on the phone with them at least a half dozen times going back and forth over a claim they should have covered (a total test of my patience and tolerance). I am behind on several work projects. I recently found out there is yet more work to do on a book I have been writing. And, there is just the everyday stuff and the list of things I need to handle for my kids.

There are so many reasons I could be overwhelmed and stressed out right now.

But, after 30 plus years of doing that, I finally learned there is a better way – a much better way- to manage through today. It’s days like these, where that quote by Paulo Coelho really helps you remember the truth. If you keep taking steps forward and take it day by day, eventually things will smooth out and fall into place. [Read more...]

5 Simple But Powerful Thoughts To Focus On Today (#15)

Andsuddenlyyoujustknow2“And suddenly you just know … It’s time to find the way to Something More.”

What a year it has been. Wouldn’t you agree? So many challenges and so many things to work through. I know I’ve said it before, but I just have to say it again. It’s hard not to notice all the challenges that continually keep happening. Just when you think you’ve finally gotten things under control, something else comes up.

But, that’s the way life goes.

There are going to be those times when we have to deal with challenges. Even though these times require that we dig deep emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, there is so much we gain every time we push through another challenge.

I was talking the other day to one of my friends from the Possibility of Today community and she said one of the funniest and best sayings I have ever heard to describe challenging times.

Every time that yet another challenge or problem comes up, she says to herself … “Here I grow again.” That saying just makes me smile because it is so perfect and so true.

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2 Essential Things To Do Every Day While You’re Pushing Through Challenging Times

Sometimesit'sthe.jpg“Sometimes it’s the most challenging path that leads you to the most beautiful destination.”

Wouldn’t you say that this year has been filled with a lot of challenges? And, I am not just talking about regular everyday challenges, I am talking about those big challenges that can be really, really hard to work through. It seems like every time I work through one thing, something else comes up and then something else. Has it been the same for you?

Well, if you can relate, you will probably appreciate being reminded of two very important things I recently reminded myself of:

(1) There is relief in sight…thank goodness. And, there are so many more good things waiting for you on the other side of whatever it is you’re working through. Although it may get challenging at times, you’re learning even more about who you really are and what you’re truly capable of.

Things don’t just happen to us. They also happen for us so that we can learn, grow, and be strengthened while life rearranges perfectly to give us everything we truly need. 

And, the second thing to remember is that …

(2) You don’t have to wait to reach the proverbial “finish line” before you start feeling really good. Even though it may not always seem possible, you’re actually meant to feel centered and maintain your peace of mind no matter what is going on or what you’re still working through. It’s like one of my favorite quotes explains …

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“Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.” Spirit says, “Find your peace and then everything will fall into place.”  ~Marianne Williamson [Read more...]

14 Things That Are Okay to Do (Even If Other People Tell You They Are Wrong)

Bewhoyouare.030“Be who you are and your life will transform forever.” Deepak Chopra

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting or questioning your desires and the things you want for your life? I can’t even begin to count the number of times I discounted what I truly wanted and convinced myself what I wanted wasn’t realistic or wasn’t going to happen.

But, you live and you learn. And, now I know better.

It’s not that I don’t still have doubts at times, but I know those doubts are the voice of my Chief Negativity Officer trying to convince me of something that is simply not true. So, instead of listening to the voice of my Chief Negativity Officer, I choose instead to listen to my intuition and move in the direction of my true desires.

One of the most important lessons I have learned is that your desires are not something you should discount or not act on because they are actually pointing you in the direction that your life is meant to grow.

I am not talking about the fleeting desires or impulses that fade away, but rather those genuine desires that you can feel deep down are right. When it comes to those desires, there is a reason – a very good reason- why they continue to surface in your mind and you feel drawn to them.

It’s your intuition doing its best to get your attention and assure you that you can trust the direction its pointing you in. You are meant to listen and do what you know deep down feels right.

So, from time to time, I update my list of things that are okay for me to do, even though my Chief Negativity Officer or other people may suggest otherwise. If you don’t have a list like this, I would recommend making one. It just helps you stay true to yourself and the things you genuinely desire for your life.

Also, the latest Possibility of Today podcast is all about the things you can do today to follow through on your desires. You can Click Here to listen to it.

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How To Strengthen Your Belief And Get Rid Of Any Doubts That Are Holding You Back

Thethingsyouare.jpg“The things you are passionate about are not random, they are your calling.” Fabienne Fredrickson

I think one of the easiest things to lose sight of is the fact that there is a very important reason why we have certain dreams and things we are truly passionate about.

There are dreams we have had for as long as we can remember.

There are ideas that have staying power in our minds and hearts.

There are things we can feel deep down we are meant to do. 

These dreams that we are truly passionate about are not random. They have been given to us and we are supposed to do our part and help make them happen. They are not meant to be fleeting or something we don’t take action on. I know that was the mistake I made for years because I thought I was being “practical” and “responsible”. [Read more...]

How You Trust The Journey Even When Things Get Tough

Don'tletwhathappens.jpgHave you ever been working for awhile (maybe even for years) to get something you really wanted? Maybe there was something you were trying to accomplish or maybe you realized certain things needed to improve in your life?

Do you know what has always been interesting to me about these times when we’ve been doing our best to get the pieces to fall into place?

When things finally do fall into place … there will be something else. There are always more possibilities and even more things we are going to want, regardless of what we accomplish.

After you finally get the dream job, then it’s going to be about getting a promotion or the next job.

After you find the right person, then it’s going to be about creating a healthy relationship with that person.

After you finish writing the book and get it published, then it’s going to be about the next book.

There will always be something else. [Read more...]

5 Important Things To Remember When Any Challenges Come Your Way

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Have you ever come across the quote by Paulo Coelho?

“Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.”

I feel like that quote totally applies to life right now, especially the part about there being so much happening all at once. It seems like challenge after challenge keeps popping up and there are so many things to handle and deal with.

Do you agree? Have you also had a lot going on lately?

Sometimes it just helps to know that you’re not the only one working through things and to also be reminded that everything will work out like you need it. It actually brings to mind another one of my favorite quotes …

“Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.”

Yes, things can be really challenging and push us harder than we may think is necessary. But, what I have finally realized, and what makes these times so much easier to walk through, is the understanding that they do happen for a reason. In one way or another there is always something that comes out of them that we need (even if it doesn’t feel like it or we have no idea what that could possibly be).

So, one of the best things we can do while we are walking through these times is remind ourselves of that Truth, recenter when necessary by settling into our Extraordinary Side, and keep taking steps in the direction that feels most right.

We’ve got to make sure we keep moving forward every single day and not let everything that is going on weigh us down or make us feel stuck because we think we can’t handle it all.

All the things we want for our life are on the other side of all the things we are working through. And, as one of my favorite quotes of all time reminds us … “So many more good things are coming down the road … just keep walking”.

Reassurance Always Come When You’re Listening

Also, haven’t you noticed that as we are working through these times, we get little reminders and reassurance to trust the way things are unfolding? Maybe someone will say something reassuring or maybe we will read something or come across a profound quote. 

I used to overlook and dismiss many of the reassurances that were coming my way. I thought they were just “feel good” sentiments and that I couldn’t really count on what they promised. There were even times that I thought it would be crazy to believe in any reassurances because very little seemed to be working out or falling into place. But, you live and learn. And, now I realize that my lack of complete belief was actually what was working against me the most.

It’s not crazy to believe in the messages and reassurances that come our way … It’s crazy not to believe.

The reassurances are coming for a reason. They are meant to point us in the direction of our inner voice. It’s why they catch our attention and why the messages resonate. We are meant to listen, let them strengthen our belief even more and provide us with some additional inspiration to keep going. They are our True North.

5 Simple But Powerful Truths to Keep Top Of Mind.

#1) “Don’t let what happens or what doesn’t happen bother you. Life has a way of rearranging perfectly so what you truly need can come together.”

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#2) “What is coming is better than what is gone.” Arabic Proverb

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#3) “Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you’ve ever imagined.”

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#4) “Everything you need will come to you at the perfect time.”

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#5)” So many more good things are coming down the road … just keep walking.”

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What To Do When You Have Too Much To Do

It'snottheload.050Is it just me or have you also had a lot going on? Challenges left and right, handling so much at work, at home and then don’t forget about trying to make progress when it comes to the other things we also want for our life.

So much to do … never enough time.

How do we handle it all and keep our peace of mind (which we know is so important)?

Well, I remembered something that I finally learned after so many years (decades) of moving through busy times like these the wrong way.

In the past, when I felt like I had too much to do, it used to bother me. I let myself get stressed out and always felt like I hadn’t done enough. I resented a lot of things I felt I had to do because they were weighing me down and getting in the way of the things I really wanted.

The Chief Negativity Officer in my mind would take over and the negative mind chatter would start …

“It’s just too much. I am never going to be able to do all of this.”

“If I didn’t have to worry about dealing with (_________), then maybe I would be able to handle all the other things I really want to finish.”

“Why do I have to handle everything? It always falls on me.”

Listening to my Chief Negativity Officer never did anything but made me feel worse and less productive. I finally realized the problem wasn’t all “the stuff” I had to handle or all the “issues” I needed to work through. Yes, it was a lot, but it wasn’t causing the real problem. It’s like that great quote by Lena Horne reminds us …

“It’s not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.”

I absolutely was not carrying my load the right way. It’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture and why it is actually a good thing that so much is going on.

Although on the surface, it just looks like we have a lot of issues and too much to do, what is actually happening is that life is rearranging perfectly to give us exactly what we need and what we have asked for.

Things are changing, moving, shifting and of course that means we have to be a part of the process and help them change, move and shift, but every single thing we are doing in one way or another is lining up to eventually benefit us.

And when I realized that … everything changed.
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How You Stay Inspired And Keep Moving Toward What You Want

Everythingyouneed.025Do you want to know something that finally dawned on me? It’s okay to not know. It’s okay to not know exactly “how” something is going to happen or “how” things will actually come together… and still completely believe everything will work out.

For so many years, I thought it was enough if I just took steps in the right direction and “hoped for the best”.

And, you hear people say things like this all the time …

“I don’t know if it will work out, but I am trying and hoping for the best.” “Only time will tell, but I am giving it everything I have and staying positive.”

That used to be the way I thought about things too.

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One Important Question To Ask Yourself Today

Imagineanewstory2“Imagine a new story for your life and start living it.” Paulo Coelho

Have you heard that from time to time you should ask yourself a thoughtful and inquisitive question and see what your honest answer is?

Well, according to the research and what a lot of people have found to be true, if we ask ourselves the right questions, we can figure out what we truly want, discover what we’re meant to do; and asking the right questions will even lead to “aha moments” where something clicks and we realize our best steps forward.

If you think about it, it really does make sense. I mean so often we are moving from one thing to the next – taking care of work, our family, or the many other things we need to handle. But, when we stop and give ourselves the time and space to figure out what’s most important to us and those things we are truly meant to do, it really can change everything.

So, when I came across this suggestion and all the benefits from asking ourselves thoughtful and inquisitive questions, I went searching for the perfect question.

One Important Question We Should Ask Ourselves

I came across this great TED speech by Regina Dugan and she said that a very important question we should all ask ourselves is …

“What would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn’t fail?”

What would you choose to go after if you knew that no matter what it was you chose, you would absolutely be able to take steps in the right direction and then the day would come where you were successful?

It’s a pretty big question isn’t it? The answer could be anything – maybe something you’ve always wanted to accomplish? Or, maybe something you feel you’re meant to do?

Now, if you’re questioning whether you can really not worry about failing and choose anything, the answer is “yes”. This is something I had to push myself to do, but the reality is that if there is something you genuinely want or feel you were meant to do, there is a path to it. (This is actually the topic of the latest Possibility of Today Podcast if you want to check it out.)

You wouldn’t have something that you feel you were meant to do or that you’re genuinely passionate about without also being given a way to make it happen. That’s just not the way things work.

That’s also why you can’t let the idea of failure prevent you from going after what you truly want. It’s like Regina Dugan said in her TED speech, “when you remove the idea of failure, impossible things suddenly become possible.” And, it really is true and why I love this question so much. It immediately opens up a new way of looking at your options and the things you want for your life.

So, after you’ve figured out what you truly want and what you would attempt to do, then the next and most important question is…

What are you doing today to take a step toward it?

It’s not that you have to make drastic changes. But, we should always be taking a step every day toward those things we want for our life. It’s the way we continually make progress and avoid falling into the trap where we are settling for things being less than what we know they can be.

It’s like one of my favorite quotes by Nelson Mandela reminds us -

“There is no passion in playing small or settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” 

The Possibility of Today: Asking Yourself the Right Question

1. Take time today and find your answer to the question: What would you attempt to do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

2. Align your day with your answer. Figure out what you can do today (and every today that follows) to take another step toward what you truly want. It doesn’t have to be big … baby steps taken consistently every day will get you there. “It doesn’t matter how slow you go… as long as you go.”

Live Today Better Than Yesterday.

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