Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck. Dalai Lama
Are you a planner? Are you always thinking through things, planning, creating schedules in your mind and figuring out how you want things to happen?
I am such a planner. I have a plan for just about everything in my life. I plan my days and all the things I want to accomplish. I plan my goals and what needs to happen so they can come together. I plan weekends, vacations, parties, dinners – you name it, I plan it. I just have always been a big believer that if you don’t know where you’re going … it makes it so much harder to get there.
BUT … (and this is a big BUT)
One of the most important things I had to learn was how to “let go” a little of all my plans and especially my expectations about how things needed to happen. I had to realize nothing was actually going “wrong” just because it wasn’t going as I planned.
Teaching myself to “let go” a little has removed so much unnecessary disappointment and even angst from my life. In the past, when things went “off schedule” or not as planned, I would get all worked up and bothered. My mood would take an instant nosedive and I would snap into “how can I fix this as quickly as possible mode”.
What I finally realized is that I needed less planning … and more trusting of whatever was unfolding.
Don’t get me wrong, plans are important and it’s good to figure out what you want. It just that what’s even more important is to know when to “let go” and trust the way things are happening … no matter what it is. [Read more...]