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June 19, 2013 By Sibyl Leave a Comment

When You Should “Let Go” A Little And How To Do It

Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck. Dalai Lama

Are you a planner? Are you always thinking through things, planning, creating schedules in your mind and figuring out how you want things to happen?

I am such a planner. I have a plan for just about everything in my life. I plan my days and all the things I want to accomplish. I plan my goals and what needs to happen so they can come together. I plan weekends, vacations, parties, dinners – you name it, I plan it. I just have always been a big believer that if you don’t know where you’re going … it makes it so much harder to get there.

BUT … (and this is a big BUT)

One of the most important things I had to learn was how to “let go” a little of all my plans and especially my expectations about how things needed to happen. I had to realize nothing was actually going “wrong” just because it wasn’t going as I planned.

Teaching myself to “let go” a little has removed so much unnecessary disappointment and even angst from my life. In the past, when things went “off schedule” or not as planned, I would get all worked up and bothered. My mood would take an instant nosedive and I would snap into “how can I fix this as quickly as possible mode”.

What I finally realized is that I needed less planning … and more trusting of whatever was unfolding.

Don’t get me wrong, plans are important and it’s good to figure out what you want. It just that what’s even more important is to know when to “let go” and trust the way things are happening … no matter what it is. [Read more...]

June 9, 2013 By Sibyl 14 Comments

41 Things You May Want to Do Even If Other People Tell You They Are Wrong

“It’s better to walk alone, than with a crowd going in the wrong direction.” Diane Grant

How good are you at following your heart and doing what feels right regardless of what other people think? I used to never go against the grain or do things that were “outside the box”. There were so many times I reconsidered things I wanted and doubted myself just because other people were doing it differently.

But, you live and learn …

And, one day I realized I was trying so hard to fit into a box I was never meant to fit into.

It’s an easy trap to fall into isn’t it? We think we’ve got to fit in and do the things that are expected of us. But, you know what I finally learned? There is nothing more important than finding the way to your own truth and then following it. It’s like one my most favorite quotes says …

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” ~Maya Angelou

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June 2, 2013 By Sibyl Leave a Comment

3 Steps to Tap Into Your Best Mindset For Challenges

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” Eckhart Tolle

We have lived long enough to know that from time to time challenges happen. Haven’t you found that to be true? You can be moving along day after day and things can be going relatively smoothly, but then all of a sudden, something you didn’t want happens. You hit a bump in the road. Or, maybe you get some bad news or find out that something you had hoped would work out doesn’t go as planned.

Whatever the case may be, there are times where things happen and we know that in one way or another, we are going to have to deal with it. There’s some “working through” that is going to need to happen.

In the past, I used to really dislike challenges. I would get upset and bothered because I just wanted things to go smoothly. Back then, if I had read any quotes that tried to explain anything positive about having challenges, I wouldn’t have appreciated them. Quotes like …

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” Eckhart Tolle (or)

“You can’t control the waves, but you can learn to surf.” John Kabat Zinn

I would have read these quotes and thought … Yes, that’s all nice and well. I am glad that “something new is going to emerge” and “surfing” sounds great. But, right now, I really don’t care. I’ve got some real issues that need to be dealt with. Maybe after all my problems go away, then I can work on being happy about new things emerging and learning to surf.

But, you live and learn … right? And, I knew that not looking at challenges from the right perspective was working against me and preventing me from being able to see all my options and potential solutions.

So, one day I pushed myself to look back on all those times where things had gone “wrong”. You know what I eventually realized? Although those challenging times were tough to get through, there was always something extremely important I ended up realizing. And, I definitely got stronger by working through every challenge.

Even though I now see the benefits of having certain experiences, I can’t say that I sit around hoping a challenge will come my way. But, what I can say, is that there are two things we can know for sure every time a challenge does arise:

(1) Its time to trust. There’s no need to wonder “why” or resent anything that is happening because somehow – someway it is strengthening you for all the good stuff that’s coming your way … or as that quote by Eckhart Tolle explains “something new is going to emerge”.

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(2) There will be things that need to be worked through, but you really can surf through the challenge. “It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it”.— Lena Horne

You Can Learn to Surf With The Right Mindset

It all comes down to your mindset and how you choose to manage through the challenge. Even though there are times where we can’t control the waves and challenges may arise, what we can always control is our mindset. We can choose to do the right things everyday that will strengthen our mindset and then we can better manage through whatever comes our way. That’s liberating and it reminds us of the truth …

We are not at the mercy of any challenges. We just need to choose to surf.

The Possibility of Today – Choose The Ideal Mindset And Surf Through Challenges

1. Push Yourself Toward Acceptance. As you move through the day, remind yourself that your goal is acceptance and that you are being set up for something new to emerge. Knowing that acceptance is your goal gives you something to aim for and it can cut down on the time you resent or are upset about whatever challenge has come up.

2. Focus Your Attention on Today. Its all about TODAY. Don’t worry about tomorrow or what happened yesterday. Its just about today and taking a step forward. What are you going to do today?

3. Keep The Benefits Top of Mind. Anytime you get overwhelmed or frustrated, remind yourself of all the personal benefits and also the benefits the people you care about will experience. It’s always extra motivation to remember why you’re working so hard to get through the challenge.

Live Today Better than Yesterday.

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May 26, 2013 By Sibyl 14 Comments

One Simple Question You Must Always Ask Yourself

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.” — Anatole France

When it comes to what you want for your life, do you trust that if you continually do the right things, at some point things will come together and unfold perfectly?

You know what I realized? This is a recurring question we are always going to have to answer no matter what it is we are hoping will happen in our life. It always comes down to this one question …

When there is something you really want, do you believe and trust that down the road things will unfold perfectly? It’s easy to believe when you see things falling into place, but can you believe and trust before you see anything? Can you trust that things will work out before you have any tangible reason to believe?

I always wanted to believe that if I was doing the right things day after day, at some point, somehow-someway, things would come together.

But, I wasn’t completely confident that I could trust that to happen. There were days when my belief would waiver. I thought I was crazy for trusting that things were going to come together – especially since there were plenty of times in the past when they had not. [Read more...]

May 19, 2013 By Sibyl 5 Comments

5 Simple But Powerful Messages to Keep Top of Mind (Part #9)

”Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from all negativity.”

When a negative thought comes up in your mind do you choose to correct it or do you let it stay there until you move on and start thinking about something else?

For example, if the thought – “I am scared that things aren’t going to work out” pops into your mind … before you move on, do you correct it and say to yourself - “Everything is going to be absolutely fine. I know things always unfold perfectly and I just need to trust and believe that.”

I think one of the most important things I ever realized was that we can choose to never let a negative thought be the last one we have on anything that is going on in our life. Of course, we’re human, and so from time-to-time fears, doubts and negative thoughts may surface in our mind.

However, a vital and easy little tweak we can make is to correct those thoughts. And, as we move through the day, if we make that little change, we can dramatically improve the way we experience everything.

Isn’t it almost unbelievable that something as simple as that can have such a profound impact on your mood and the way you feel and experience everything? But, it really does.

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May 12, 2013 By Sibyl 9 Comments

When Things Feel “Hard”, Do This One Thing And You’ll Feel Better And Things Will Be Easier to Push Through

To experience peace does not mean that your mind is always blissful. It means that you’re capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life. – Jill Bolte Taylor

Is it just me or do you also feel like there has been so much going on for what feels like forever? For awhile now, hasn’t it felt like you’ve had so much to manage through? Maybe you’ve been trying to accomplish something for awhile? Or, perhaps you’ve been experiencing the ups and downs – of life, or your work, or your relationship, or your health, or your financial situation, or all of the above.

Well, if any of this sounds familiar, then I know what you’re going through. I also have had a ton of things going on for what feels like a very, very long time.

Aren’t you looking for that finish line? Or, at least to reach that point where you can see that everything you’ve been working through is finally paying off? However, no matter how much you wish otherwise, you know you’re not at the finish line just yet. There’s some more “pushing” required and you’re probably going to have to work through some more challenges – “Ugh”.

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May 5, 2013 By Sibyl 13 Comments

Six Steps You Can Take To Forgive Anyone AND Everyone (Even If They Don’t Deserve It)

“Forgiveness means that you do not carry the baggage of an experience.” Gary Zukav

On a scale of 1 to 10, how good are you at forgiving people? I came across a poll awhile back that said 74% of the people they polled admitted there was someone they hadn’t forgiven. So, if you are not an expert when it comes to forgiveness, you are definitely not alone.

I know I definitely used to have my own hangups with forgiving people.

Forgiveness in general was hard for me, but what would make it even worse was when people didn’t even apologize for their bad behavior or when I knew it was just a matter of time before they would do something again that needed to be forgiven (you know those people that are continually doing inconsiderate or mean things).

I always felt people needed to be held accountable for their behavior and earn forgiveness. In my mind, they needed to realize their mistakes and then be willing to do whatever it took to make up for what they had done wrong.

But, you live and you learn.

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April 26, 2013 By Sibyl 2 Comments

19 Things I Wish I Knew Earlier In Life

“Dear Past,

Thank you for all the lessons you gave me.

Dear Future,

I am ready now.”

Have you ever looked back on your life and thought … “If I just knew then, what I know now.” ?

I know that throughout our life we get so many lessons and important takeaway messages from experiences and challenges.

I also know that I missed some lessons and takeaway message the first time around … and needed repeat lessons (sometimes several repeat lessons) until what I needed to understand finally sunk in.

Wouldn’t it have been have great if some of those lessons could have stuck just a little sooner?

But, life has a way of unfolding perfectly … and the perfect lessons always come to us at the perfect time. [Read more...]

April 19, 2013 By Sibyl 10 Comments

One of the Most Important Things You Should Do Today

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Are you aware of your Extraordinary Side?

You may have heard people refer to it as your Higher Self or that part of you deep down that knows what you’re really capable of. It’s also that ‘thing’ in you that helps you get through those tough times.

You know what I’m talking about – don’t you?

Well, the other day, I was doing research for this next book I am writing and I came across some information about this “thing” in us – our Extraordinary Side. It’s actually pretty interesting because there’s a lot of research out there on the Extraordinary Side.

Albert Einstein as well as many other scientists and doctors have also come across the Extraordinary Side or Higher Self.

I thought it was interesting because for so long I assumed the Extraordinary Side was exclusively a “spiritual” thing, but that’s just not the case. And, what’s even more interesting, is that even though it’s been both spiritually and scientifically proven, it’s so easy to overlook the fact that we really do have this part of our self we always can and should be relying on. [Read more...]

April 11, 2013 By Sibyl 5 Comments

5 Simple But Powerful Messages to Keep Top of Mind (Part #8)

We do have the choice to be editing our life on any given day if we wish. We can ‘edit’ the way we ‘perceive’…’resist’…’resent’… and ‘question’ what comes our way.

How good are you at “editing” and framing the things that come your way in the best light possible? This is a question I asked myself recently after coming across this great quote (above) that Rand left in the comments of last week’s article (Thank you Rand).

One of the things I have finally learned is that the way we perceive things and frame them in our minds absolutely affects the way we experience them and how we feel.

And, I’ve realized that often times some “editing” of situations is necessary because our minds don’t automatically see things in the best light and from the right perspective.

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