Mindset

June 2, 2013 By Sibyl Leave a Comment

3 Steps to Tap Into Your Best Mindset For Challenges

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” Eckhart Tolle

We have lived long enough to know that from time to time challenges happen. Haven’t you found that to be true? You can be moving along day after day and things can be going relatively smoothly, but then all of a sudden, something you didn’t want happens. You hit a bump in the road. Or, maybe you get some bad news or find out that something you had hoped would work out doesn’t go as planned.

Whatever the case may be, there are times where things happen and we know that in one way or another, we are going to have to deal with it. There’s some “working through” that is going to need to happen.

In the past, I used to really dislike challenges. I would get upset and bothered because I just wanted things to go smoothly. Back then, if I had read any quotes that tried to explain anything positive about having challenges, I wouldn’t have appreciated them. Quotes like …

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” Eckhart Tolle (or)

“You can’t control the waves, but you can learn to surf.” John Kabat Zinn

I would have read these quotes and thought … Yes, that’s all nice and well. I am glad that “something new is going to emerge” and “surfing” sounds great. But, right now, I really don’t care. I’ve got some real issues that need to be dealt with. Maybe after all my problems go away, then I can work on being happy about new things emerging and learning to surf.

But, you live and learn … right? And, I knew that not looking at challenges from the right perspective was working against me and preventing me from being able to see all my options and potential solutions.

So, one day I pushed myself to look back on all those times where things had gone “wrong”. You know what I eventually realized? Although those challenging times were tough to get through, there was always something extremely important I ended up realizing. And, I definitely got stronger by working through every challenge.

Even though I now see the benefits of having certain experiences, I can’t say that I sit around hoping a challenge will come my way. But, what I can say, is that there are two things we can know for sure every time a challenge does arise:

(1) Its time to trust. There’s no need to wonder “why” or resent anything that is happening because somehow – someway it is strengthening you for all the good stuff that’s coming your way … or as that quote by Eckhart Tolle explains “something new is going to emerge”.

AND

(2) There will be things that need to be worked through, but you really can surf through the challenge. “It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it”.— Lena Horne

You Can Learn to Surf With The Right Mindset

It all comes down to your mindset and how you choose to manage through the challenge. Even though there are times where we can’t control the waves and challenges may arise, what we can always control is our mindset. We can choose to do the right things everyday that will strengthen our mindset and then we can better manage through whatever comes our way. That’s liberating and it reminds us of the truth …

We are not at the mercy of any challenges. We just need to choose to surf.

The Possibility of Today – Choose The Ideal Mindset And Surf Through Challenges

1. Push Yourself Toward Acceptance. As you move through the day, remind yourself that your goal is acceptance and that you are being set up for something new to emerge. Knowing that acceptance is your goal gives you something to aim for and it can cut down on the time you resent or are upset about whatever challenge has come up.

2. Focus Your Attention on Today. Its all about TODAY. Don’t worry about tomorrow or what happened yesterday. Its just about today and taking a step forward. What are you going to do today?

3. Keep The Benefits Top of Mind. Anytime you get overwhelmed or frustrated, remind yourself of all the personal benefits and also the benefits the people you care about will experience. It’s always extra motivation to remember why you’re working so hard to get through the challenge.

Live Today Better than Yesterday.

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May 19, 2013 By Sibyl 5 Comments

5 Simple But Powerful Messages to Keep Top of Mind (Part #9)

”Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from all negativity.”

When a negative thought comes up in your mind do you choose to correct it or do you let it stay there until you move on and start thinking about something else?

For example, if the thought – “I am scared that things aren’t going to work out” pops into your mind … before you move on, do you correct it and say to yourself - “Everything is going to be absolutely fine. I know things always unfold perfectly and I just need to trust and believe that.”

I think one of the most important things I ever realized was that we can choose to never let a negative thought be the last one we have on anything that is going on in our life. Of course, we’re human, and so from time-to-time fears, doubts and negative thoughts may surface in our mind.

However, a vital and easy little tweak we can make is to correct those thoughts. And, as we move through the day, if we make that little change, we can dramatically improve the way we experience everything.

Isn’t it almost unbelievable that something as simple as that can have such a profound impact on your mood and the way you feel and experience everything? But, it really does.

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May 5, 2013 By Sibyl 13 Comments

Six Steps You Can Take To Forgive Anyone AND Everyone (Even If They Don’t Deserve It)

“Forgiveness means that you do not carry the baggage of an experience.” Gary Zukav

On a scale of 1 to 10, how good are you at forgiving people? I came across a poll awhile back that said 74% of the people they polled admitted there was someone they hadn’t forgiven. So, if you are not an expert when it comes to forgiveness, you are definitely not alone.

I know I definitely used to have my own hangups with forgiving people.

Forgiveness in general was hard for me, but what would make it even worse was when people didn’t even apologize for their bad behavior or when I knew it was just a matter of time before they would do something again that needed to be forgiven (you know those people that are continually doing inconsiderate or mean things).

I always felt people needed to be held accountable for their behavior and earn forgiveness. In my mind, they needed to realize their mistakes and then be willing to do whatever it took to make up for what they had done wrong.

But, you live and you learn.

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April 19, 2013 By Sibyl 10 Comments

One of the Most Important Things You Should Do Today

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Are you aware of your Extraordinary Side?

You may have heard people refer to it as your Higher Self or that part of you deep down that knows what you’re really capable of. It’s also that ‘thing’ in you that helps you get through those tough times.

You know what I’m talking about – don’t you?

Well, the other day, I was doing research for this next book I am writing and I came across some information about this “thing” in us – our Extraordinary Side. It’s actually pretty interesting because there’s a lot of research out there on the Extraordinary Side.

Albert Einstein as well as many other scientists and doctors have also come across the Extraordinary Side or Higher Self.

I thought it was interesting because for so long I assumed the Extraordinary Side was exclusively a “spiritual” thing, but that’s just not the case. And, what’s even more interesting, is that even though it’s been both spiritually and scientifically proven, it’s so easy to overlook the fact that we really do have this part of our self we always can and should be relying on. [Read more...]