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14 Things That Are Okay to Do (Even If Other People Tell You They Are Wrong)

Bewhoyouare.030“Be who you are and your life will transform forever.” Deepak Chopra

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting or questioning your desires and the things you want for your life? I can’t even begin to count the number of times I discounted what I truly wanted and convinced myself what I wanted wasn’t realistic or wasn’t going to happen.

But, you live and you learn. And, now I know better.

It’s not that I don’t still have doubts at times, but I know those doubts are the voice of my Chief Negativity Officer trying to convince me of something that is simply not true. So, instead of listening to the voice of my Chief Negativity Officer, I choose instead to listen to my intuition and move in the direction of my true desires.

One of the most important lessons I have learned is that your desires are not something you should discount or not act on because they are actually pointing you in the direction that your life is meant to grow.

I am not talking about the fleeting desires or impulses that fade away, but rather those genuine desires that you can feel deep down are right. When it comes to those desires, there is a reason – a very good reason- why they continue to surface in your mind and you feel drawn to them.

It’s your intuition doing its best to get your attention and assure you that you can trust the direction its pointing you in. You are meant to listen and do what you know deep down feels right.

So, from time to time, I update my list of things that are okay for me to do, even though my Chief Negativity Officer or other people may suggest otherwise. If you don’t have a list like this, I would recommend making one. It just helps you stay true to yourself and the things you genuinely desire for your life.

Also, the latest Possibility of Today podcast is all about the things you can do today to follow through on your desires. You can Click Here to listen to it.

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How To Strengthen Your Belief And Get Rid Of Any Doubts That Are Holding You Back

Thethingsyouare.jpg“The things you are passionate about are not random, they are your calling.” Fabienne Fredrickson

I think one of the easiest things to lose sight of is the fact that there is a very important reason why we have certain dreams and things we are truly passionate about.

There are dreams we have had for as long as we can remember.

There are ideas that have staying power in our minds and hearts.

There are things we can feel deep down we are meant to do. 

These dreams that we are truly passionate about are not random. They have been given to us and we are supposed to do our part and help make them happen. They are not meant to be fleeting or something we don’t take action on. I know that was the mistake I made for years because I thought I was being “practical” and “responsible”. [Read more...]

What To Do When You Have Too Much To Do

It'snottheload.050Is it just me or have you also had a lot going on? Challenges left and right, handling so much at work, at home and then don’t forget about trying to make progress when it comes to the other things we also want for our life.

So much to do … never enough time.

How do we handle it all and keep our peace of mind (which we know is so important)?

Well, I remembered something that I finally learned after so many years (decades) of moving through busy times like these the wrong way.

In the past, when I felt like I had too much to do, it used to bother me. I let myself get stressed out and always felt like I hadn’t done enough. I resented a lot of things I felt I had to do because they were weighing me down and getting in the way of the things I really wanted.

The Chief Negativity Officer in my mind would take over and the negative mind chatter would start …

“It’s just too much. I am never going to be able to do all of this.”

“If I didn’t have to worry about dealing with (_________), then maybe I would be able to handle all the other things I really want to finish.”

“Why do I have to handle everything? It always falls on me.”

Listening to my Chief Negativity Officer never did anything but made me feel worse and less productive. I finally realized the problem wasn’t all “the stuff” I had to handle or all the “issues” I needed to work through. Yes, it was a lot, but it wasn’t causing the real problem. It’s like that great quote by Lena Horne reminds us …

“It’s not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.”

I absolutely was not carrying my load the right way. It’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture and why it is actually a good thing that so much is going on.

Although on the surface, it just looks like we have a lot of issues and too much to do, what is actually happening is that life is rearranging perfectly to give us exactly what we need and what we have asked for.

Things are changing, moving, shifting and of course that means we have to be a part of the process and help them change, move and shift, but every single thing we are doing in one way or another is lining up to eventually benefit us.

And when I realized that … everything changed.
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4 Simple But Powerful Steps To Make It Through Challenges Much Easier

Ihavealways“I have always believed, and I still believe, that whatever good or bad fortune may come our way we can always give it meaning and transform it into something of value.” Herman Hesse

Have you ever felt like no matter which way you turned, there was another challenge or some other issue to deal with? You finally make some progress, but before you know it, another issue comes up, and another, and another.

Well, the reason I ask is because lately it seems like so many people (myself definitely included) are experiencing lots of challenges. [Read more...]