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January 24, 2013 By 25 Comments

5 Simple But Powerful Messages to Keep Top of Mind (Part #6)

“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.” Ann Landers

Isn’t it so interesting how relationships provide us with some of our best opportunities to learn? I used to not understand that every single one of my relationships – even the ones that went wrong – were always trying to provide me with takeaway messages and things I really needed to understand.

There were lessons about how a good relationship is really supposed to work and feel. There were pointers in the right direction of the type of person I was meant to ultimately find. And, there were of course lessons about how I needed to personally improve and grow.

But, I can honestly say, there were so many times that I missed the lessons or just didn’t pay enough attention. You live and learn — right? [Read more...]

June 23, 2012 By 11 Comments

How You Can Free Yourself From All Relationship Drama Once and For All

Why do I keep dating the same type of person that is wrong for me? Why do I continually have highs and lows in my relationship? Will I ever really find the right person or am I just going to be alone forever?

Do any of these questions sound familiar? Well, if they do, you are probably like countless other people (including myself) who have at one time or another been caught up in a Relationship Infinite Loop.

Infinite Loops are cycles we fall into without even realizing that we are essentially repeating the same patterns and not getting the results we want. When it comes to relationships, you can fall into Infinite Loops while you are looking for the right relationship and you can also fall into an Infinite Loop even when you are in a relationship.

I know I fell into plenty of my own. I can think about so many past relationships that I stayed in for too long just because I was caught up in an Infinite Loop. And, on the flip side there were also those times when I wasn’t in a relationship, continually felt lonely, and thought I was never going to find the right person – once again, I was caught up in an Infinite Loop. [Read more...]

May 29, 2012 By 18 Comments

3 Simple Things You Can Do To Improve Any Relationship or Make It Even Stronger

It doesn’t always take a lot to make a relationship better, but it does take intent.

Do you think there’s a formula for success when it comes to maintaining a great relationship? Are there certain things that you can do that will just keep the right energy flowing and help your relationship continually flourish and get stronger and stronger?

When I used to try to figure out why some of my relationships went wrong — of course, it was easy for me to reach the conclusion that “he just wasn’t the one”. I would think through what went wrong, what I could’ve done better, what he should’ve done better and arrive at the conclusion that some things are just not meant to be.

Looking back now on my past relationships, I can definitely say that is absolutely true. All relationships aren’t meant to work out.

Sometimes It’s Just About Learning The Lesson

There are those relationships where we are simply meant to learn about ourselves, smooth out any of our rough edges, help the other person smooth out their rough edges and of course move on stronger having learned all the lessons we were supposed to. [Read more...]

April 27, 2012 By 53 Comments

How You Can Forgive Anyone Today (Even the Worst Person In the Entire World That Doesn’t Deserve It)

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” – Paul Boese

Recently, I came across a poll and 74% of the people polled said there was someone they still needed to forgive. Now it may seem that 74% is a high percentage of people, but honestly, I get it. Forgiving people is not always easy. I know I have had my own hangups with forgiveness and it’s definitely a situation of easier said than done.

People can really do some awful things and make it amazingly hard for you to even think about forgiving them. Especially those people that have somehow convinced themselves they have done nothing wrong. Isn’t it just the craziest thing that someone can do something they know deep down is wrong, but find a way to justify their actions enough that they aren’t even really apologetic?

Forgiving people can be challenging enough when people sincerely apologize, but it adds an entire new layer to the situation when you realize you aren’t going to even get an apology. But, as I am sure you already know, there really are so many reasons why we want to forgive anyone and everyone as soon as is absolutely possible. [Read more...]